Jezebel – A Man’s View
To all Jezebel Ladies out there – is this really the reputation you want with men at work?
This is a man’s testimony, and the text is written by him for this web site.
Jezebel # 1 – The Jezebel Boss
To begin, I will use my own personal experience of having both worked for, and under a jezebel. Both experiences were by far the most traumatic times of my entire life. I will start by telling you my experiences working for a jezebel. This was a period of 2 1/2 years. She was the Director, and I was the Assistant Director. Here is exactly what happened from day one with this sick, demented woman. I was not given a separate office, but was put out on the floor with all of the employees of the department. This was her way of telling me that I was absolutely and totally subordinate to her, and I would never be much more than a working Contracting Officer. I had NO supervisory duties. In fact, I had to have all my work reviewed by her before it went out. My hours were usually from 7:00 am until whenever. During my first month until the day I left, that miserable soul called in sick every single morning and told me she would be in around 9:00 or 10:00, if at all. She was always “sick”.
As bad as the workplace was with her in there, she had her allies in different departments. She found the most evil women in the entire organization that she could count on to do things for her. Things that would help her look good at everyone else’s expense. She was able to take business trips to any place she wanted to go for whatever reason, but usually they were up to Delaware where her mom and dad lived. So she was getting paid her salary plus travel pay for free, but no one else could do the same.
Once when she was on one of these “business trips” she called me from her parents home and was giving me orders over the phone like she was still at work. When I reminded her that I was in charge while she was gone, she went totally out of control, yelling and screaming that she was in charge ALWAYS. That’s when I started looking for a way out of there. So, I had documented every single event that happened every day and kept it handy just in case I would have to use it. The day finally came when I had had enough. I went into her office in full view of all of the employees and slammed the door behind me and from what I have been told, I could be heard, word for word, for the entire time I was in there. All the employees were in absolute shock, but the kind of shock that someone would actually take on this demon. I gave her the worst verbal spanking she had ever had. She shriveled up behind her desk into the corner of the wall like a trapped animal with total fear in her eyes. I almost started feeling sorry for her, but I felt so justified in telling her to “stick it where the sun don’t shine”.
After that, I went straight into the General Manager’s office and had a talk with him. He was, and is, a very strong alpha male. I told him that I was not getting along with jezebel, and I thought he should know why. I gave him all of my accounts of what was going on in the office and all I got back from him was, “well, I know that working for jezebel is not easy, but…”. Then, I knew that it was over with that organization after that. He was protecting one of his department heads. When I came back, jezebel had left for the day… she was sick… again!
The employees told me they heard every single word and they wanted to know how I felt after it was over. I said, better… much better. The employees said they wish that they could have said the same things that I did, but they were so afraid of her they didn’t say a word to her. I was the only one who did. My mistake. She made my life so miserable, I could not get out of there fast enough. She told me that I could NEVER leave the workplace for any reason at any time unless she gave me permission. She would call me at MIDNIGHT and tell me to come over to the office and do some work that she felt was so important that I had to get it done immediately. This went on until I finally left there.
This was about 3 years ago now, and I heard that after I had left, she totally went wild and was pushing her weight around the entire organization as though she were the boss. It got so bad that when the GM had enough emails from the employees from all departments about her, he finally removed her from the position and put her directly under him. It didn’t last long. She was gone within 6 months. Thank God! If I was of any help, then great. If not, then I feel bad for the employees who were still stuck there after I left.
Now, I need to explain what tactics she used when all this was going on. She lied to me. She lied to management. She lied to her employees. She felt no sense of remorse after hurting someone’s feelings. She had virtually all the women crying at one time or another, and the men so mad that one of them actually took the piece of paper that she gave him with a ONE PERCENT pay raise, and tore it up and dropped it on the floor in front of her. All she did was just laugh some kind of hideous laugh that sounded so sick, so evil, and so demented that it made my stomach turn. She always acted like she was the injured party and that everyone should feel sorry for HER. She took 100% of the credit of all the employees hard work, and she never gave them anything but grief, strife, and stress.
The more I think about it, I have to come to the conclusion that she was either 1) mentally ill, or 2) demonic. I am serious. I am having a hard time to this day when I think about all that we went through with that jezebel. Like I said before, I have forgiven her, but my flesh still harbors some deep hatred of her that only God can remove from my heart.
Conclusion- Jezebel “Boss” traits:
jezebel over me: Obsessed with Power. Takes all of the credit. Has no feelings of remorse or empathy. Always right, everyone else is stupid. Arrogant. Withholds vital information from subordinates and then springs a surprise on them by telling them they should have know it too. Never can tell anyone they are appreciated. They do the opposite of whatever is suggested just because they can. Demands absolute control. Leaks untruths to others. Likes chaos. Cannot keep her own workload managed. Is messy, disorganized, and blames subordinates for all her shortcomings. Slanders and/or defames one’s character. Tells lies ALWAYS. Incapable of telling the COMPLETE truth. Looks for sympathy because she is always “sick”. Expects people to cater to her. Has secretive phone calls to other conspirators. Looks and acts more masculine then feminine. Is threatened by any female who has the normal characteristics of honesty, brains, and other traits that are associated with those in the mainstream. Not happy unless she has made others miserable. Constantly goes to her boss literally crying because she is so swamped with work, and everyone else in the department is to blame. She sets everyone up for failure, and they do.
Jezebel #2 – The “Subordinate” Jezebel
Now for the jezebel that worked for me. This particular jezebel was a sneaky one. She worked her little evil deeds behind my back. What she did not know was, I knew what she was doing. I pretended that I wasn’t aware of certain things just to see how far she would try to push me before I would do something. Well, that didn’t take too long. I told her to write a “white paper” to the General Director with HER name on it as the author so that she could get some credit for doing some good work. This particular jezebel was bright, charming, intelligent, and wanted to always be the one who could have “face time” with the bosses. So, I thought, what the heck. I think she can handle anything that comes her way, so why not. So, I told her to get me a copy of the “white paper” on a certain day.
When that day came, the paper had not shown up on my desk, so as I was leaving, I saw her going into my office and came right back out within seconds. So, I pretended I did not see her, and I came in the next morning, and on my desk was a hand-written note from her that she didn’t think there was anything of importance to tell the general director.
So, I ended up doing the paper myself, then after I came back from the meeting, I called her into my office. (I called my boss, a male, to come into my office at the same time.) I did not want to ever be alone with anyone of the opposite sex without someone else being in there at the same time. So, I asked her why she did not do the paper like I asked her. She told me she didn’t think there was anything important enough to tell the general director. I told her that the paper was not my idea, but the general director’s idea, and I wanted her to have a chance to excel and write a paper with her name on the byline.
She just stared at me, with my boss sitting off to the side. Then there was an uncomfortable silence, and I told her I would talk to her later. She left my office. My boss said that I had no choice. I had to write her up. I knew it, but he was right. I could not let this go. So, my boss and I called her into the office again a little later and handed her a written reprimand. She read it, looked at me, smiled and signed it. She said she would be going to HR. I said okay. She went. She lost. HR told her that she had been asking for that for a very long time (she apparently had a history before I got there).
From that time on, she never spoke to me again. And from that time on, I kept giving her a “satisfactory” rating rather than an outstanding rating. She would never admit that she was wrong, and I never bothered her about it again. She retired because of me. I felt very bad about that until I found out that she was having an affair with another guy in our office, and she dumped her husband and took everything, and the poor ex husband died 3 months later. The new guy got everything. A new house to live in, a new car, and a slightly used new wife.
Conclusion – Subordinate Jezebel traits
Her characteristics were these: She was sneaky. She loved to start rumors. She liked attention. She rebelled against higher authority, especially male authority. She lost no sleep when her ex died a terrible and lonely death. She was tall, slim, attractive, and liked to gain the attention of men by being very warm and charming around those who were in a position to help her. I was told that she had used her sexual attraction to her advantage to get what she wanted, but I really never saw any proof of it, but it sounded like something she would do. Other traits: Secretive. Tries to sabotage the boss. Can be unusually manipulative for her own gain. Complains about others. Always tries to defy authority. Hates a male boss. Hates males, but uses them; sometimes by enticing them with sexual favors. Use ANY method to stay ahead of her competition. Has one agenda: to become the alpha female.
Jezebel 1 and 2 common traits
These common traits are their ability to use either their female charm, or ability to intimidate those around them to get what they want. They respect no man. They respect no inferior female. They ALWAYS are combative, pushy, bossy, mean spirited, conspiring with other jezebels. They always take, but never give. They think of no one but themselves. They probably have been hurt by some man, and now they are eager to “get back” at the enemy.
Final Thoughts – a message for women
From a male’s perspective, I must admit something that may be hard for a female to quite understand, but I will try to explain it like this. First, I absolutely love women. I love the differences between us. I love the way they think, and everything about them. To me, women are soft, tender, loving, and a joy to be around. I love the way they look. I love the way they smell. I love everything about them, but there is a catch to all of this. I usually walk head first into something and don’t see it coming when it comes to jezebels.
I usually just see all women as my friend and are comforted by their presence. But the bad thing about that is, I sometimes get used and don’t catch on until it is too late. There are degrees of evil in some jezebels. Some jezebels are out there and I would never know it, but if I run into one as evil as the one I did 3 years ago, I can usually figure that out right away. So, my point is, men are in a very tenuous situation when it comes to women. We love them, but we are also very cautious these days. Especially in the workplace where one single word spoken and is taken the wrong way can ruin a man’s career in a New York Second.