Unanswered Prayers


For years and years we pray, and there is nothing.   What is wrong?



Distractions which weaken our prayers

There is spiritual warfare in the heavens against us.

Long video (30 minutes) but explains it well:


3 kinds of prayer in the spirit

1.  Loose, weak prayer, life has sin in it

2.  Denser prayer, but stops when meets resistance in the heavenlies, distracted

3.  Prayer that starts out weak, but gets stronger, until it turns into a pillar of fire, which breaks though the resistance.


If we do not have on the whole armor of God, each aspect that is NOT covered is attacked by the demons in the heavenly realm.

*** NOTE:

See Armour of God prayer.


If we are not fully covered, it weakens the ministering spirits sent to help us.

If we are covered, then the angels are covered also.

So we are responsible for equipping the angels assigned to us.

It is a cooperation between us.

We equip the angels with whatever we are wearing.

The more we cover ourselves, the more the angel can do for us.

Distractions cause the prayer to cease from ascending to heaven.

Prayers have a physical aspect to them.

They actually need to reach heaven in their “physical” form.


There is a “block” in the heavens which prayers need to penetrate, to get to the throne room.

Recall the expression about the heavens being made of brass:

The sky over your head will be bronze, the ground beneath you iron. Deut 28:23

The brass is the resistance that the prayers need to penetrate.

The brass (I believe) is created by us, our weaknesses, our own lack of commitment, our sins.

Here is a book more on this topic:



Distractions can be

Other people taking our time.

Phone calls





Personal weakness, such as anger – then enemy sends people to make us angry, or lust, then the enemy sends people to entice us.

Distractions can cause a potentially strong prayer that will form the pillar of fire to stop, and go back to the pillar of smoke form.

Then the prayer has to go back, and start all over at the beginning.

And there may not be a break through.

Demonic forces are active over churches and individual lives.

Their goal is to prevent the pillar of fire from forming.

OUR goal is to make sure we go from the pillar of SMOKE ( weak) to the pillar of FIRE (strong that breaks through all resistance in the heavenlies).

So WHO has the most determination?

The demons or us?

Conclusions so far:

Most of us do not get answers to prayer, because our prayers are weak.

We become discouraged, or tired, and do not pray well.

We give up, and have to keep starting over and over.



Sovereignty of God

This is not meant to be a negative concept, where God creates problems so we can suffer.

The enemy creates the problems.

Sometimes we create our own problems.



We need to work with God to stop what the enemy is doing.

James 4:7 says, "Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you."

This verse makes it clear that some things are from God, and some from the devil. We must submit to the things that are of God and resist the things that are from the devil.

The word "resist" means, "Actively fight against."

Saying "Whatever will be will be" is not actively fighting against the devil.

Sovereignty means the ultimate will of God needs to be submitted to, and performed, and IF we submit to Him, and FIGHT the enemy, we will see results.

How long that takes depends on multiple factors.

Read the above reference, it will explain this well.


God is sovereign in the sense that He is paramount and supreme.

There is no one higher in authority or power, but that does not mean He exercises His power by controlling everything in our lives.

God has given us the freedom to choose. He has a plan for us.

He seeks to reveal that plan to us and urge us in that direction, but we choose.

He doesn’t make our choices for us.

In many instances, it is our wrong choices that bring disaster upon us.

In other cases, our problems are nothing but an attack from the devil.

In some cases, natural forces of an imperfect world cause us pain.

Our tragedies are never the judgment or correction of God. Jesus came to give us abundant life.

The devil came to steal, kill and destroy (John 10:10). Don’t ever get that confused.

If it’s good, it’s God. If it’s bad, it’s the devil.

This is a fundamental doctrine of Christianity that must be understood properly if you want victory in your life.

 Believing that God controls everything renders a person passive.

Why pray and believe for something better? Whatever God wants will come to pass. That simply is not true.

The Lord is the answer to all our problems.

He is not the problem.



If we are to succeed in prayer, it will take some effort on our part.

Remove sin from our life

Do not let ourselves get distracted.

Put on the whole armor of God.

Submit to God.

Actively resist the devil – FIGHT!

Be prepared for a few battle wounds.

Do not give up.

Remember God is the answer, not the problem.

He is there to help us.

Understand that answers come in God’s timing, not ours.

And understand that being active or passive can affect God’s timing.

41 Responses to “Unanswered Prayers”

  1. The power of prayer can change people and even events. I have too many examples in my own personal life as well as countless others of friends, neighbors, acquaintances, co-workers, etc. And all of the many answered prayers doesn’t shield me from the painful struggle in those times when God seems far away, and my recent prayer feels unheard and even unanswered. (I have this little plack near my front door that simply states, “If God seems far away – – – – – Who moved?) I smile and say, “Right again, God.”

    Not getting an answer to a prayer – some people believe that means they didn’t get the answer they wanted, but the answer is there.
    Sometimes the answer to the prayer is “No” and it may come in the form of silence, but we think God doesn’t hear us. We definitely can be very good at self sabotage. If we are asking God to change an aspect of ourselves, and we are not personally committed to that change, it may not happen. Sometimes we want God to work within our time frame, and He is working within His time frame. “God, I need to hear from you by …(such & such a date or time.)” Sometimes when we believe God isn’t answering us, what might be needed is giving up our time frame for His time frame, and a time when we need to ground ourselves in our greatest and most sincere patience. Sometimes the answer, “His” answer, is right in front of us and we are just not seeing it.

    If we are asking God the to change an aspect of ourselves (stop getting angry, stop an addiction, stop feeling victim, a number of things), if we are not personally and fully committed to that change, it very well may not happen. We can also be fully committed to it for the wrong reasons. God wants to help us. But if we are asking for the wrong things, or our motives are not pure, we may not hear an answer. I try to to remember to ask for things according to his will, not mine. And God doesn’t need to have us do it all perfectly and only answers those prayers presented in a perfect manner. God is God

    For me, I find that when I voice my prayer toward the change needed in me, it seems the prayer is heard more fully, and more quickly. For instance, instead of asking Him to “fix” or “change” another person or situation, I phrase the prayer in a way that asks, “God, what am I not seeing in this situation (person), what is my part that I should change, and how could this situation possibly be serving You? If God seems quiet, either He doesn’t hear us, or he does but is ignoring us, then I ask, “Lord, please help me see this situation more clearly and have understanding and clarity of action (or non action.)

    Time should be given daily to prayer. For me, it is my quiet time with God, my personal intimate time with God. And sometimes what is best for me to just to shut up and listen. Sometimes we are so busy we don’t shut up long enough, stop spinning long enough, to hear or notice God’s answer. So, I very much agree, distractions can cause a potentially strong prayer to just stop.

    John 15:7 “If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask for what you desire and it shall be done for you.”
    1 John 3:22 “And whatever we ask we receive from Him because we keep His commandments and do those things which are pleasing in His sight.” We do not earn answers to prayers just was we can not earn our salvation which only comes through faith. Our prayers are answered through His grace and mercy.

    Jesus gave his disciples an outline for prayer in Mathew 6:5-13 where He councils that when we pray, to go to a quiet room, close the door, and pray in secret; and not to heap up empty phrases of many words, “for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him.” Then Jesus recites for them the Lord’s Prayer. Prayer isn’t simply asking or “begging” of God, rather, it is about believing in God.

    Mark 11:23 “Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray believe that you receive them and you will have them.” When praying, believe in the final results of the prayer, it may or may not happen immediately, but believe you will experience that tangible gift, if not immediately today, it may be at a later time, but believe you will receive because you will. And if the issue involves dealing with some satanic or demonic person, you need to call on assistance. I am not any sort of expert here, but what I do know is to invoke the name of Jesus Christ and that empowers you with the authority to deal with such entities. (And, please, if you have any sort of situation involving the “dark side” which I summarize these issues into, please contact someone knowledgeable in these matters.) I believe Marianne has some resources.

    Faith, Belief, no doubts, Patience, and Persistence. Sometimes people do give up too early, when, all they had to do was place one foot in front of the other. We never know what is just around the next corner. I feel like I could write a book here, but I will stop for now because I know some people (I for one) do not appreciate the posts that go on, and on, and on. (I’ve been praying to God to help me be more mindful of that.)


  2. Can you contact me tomorrow Marianne..its very important that I speak to you…My email is lashanda2090@aol.com

    Thank you

  3. Denise,

    Thank you for your thoughtful comment on prayer. I appreciate what you shared because it brought me to stop and think, doing a self assessment.

    Prayers can be sooo selfish, needy requests when I think they should be a continuous conversation. He knows what I need (Psalm 23:1-3).

    I like what you said,

    “I phrase the prayer in a way that asks, ‘God, what am I not seeing in this situation (person), what is my part that I should change, and how could this situation possibly be serving You?’

    If God seems quiet, either He doesn’t hear us, or he does but is ignoring us, then I ask, “Lord, please help me see this situation more clearly and have understanding and clarity of action (or non action.)”

    Psalm 25

    • amen

      I am glad to see more reasons being added to the post.

    • YES!, DJ, yes – prayer can be (perhaps should be?) a constant, continuous conversation. What a delightful way to see prayer. I’ve heard of people who “walk in prayer” but to have that conversation, ongoing, always checking in with God, letting Him know how we are, or ask, do I need to turn the prism ever so, to see what I am not seeing. We don’t always have to ask for something to be able to be in prayer. And many times it is for me to just stop talking and be quiet, turn off the mind, being receptive to God. Before going into prayer I sometimes ask a simple question such as, “God, I’m right here, right now, and, I would like to know, God, what can I do for you today?”

      Maybe a powerful “aha!” comes over me, or I am able to feel His Presence so strong, or, it may be it is just quiet time. But, almost always at some point in the day He lets me know (what I can do for Him today.) There may be a terrible accident I find myself at (not in) and can help; it might be finding a stray kitten and taking it to the (no kill zone) shelter; it might be passing by a stranger and our eyes meet, and instead of looking down or away, I look right at him and smile and his face lights up. And some days, I may not ever know what it was that I did for God that day, the offering itself is always very healing, for me, and a gift in itself.

      • Amen!


        My job is mindless – thank you Lord. Why is this a blessing?

        Because while working, I can sing hymns (very quietly) and say phrases like Psalm 103:1, “Bless the Lord, O my soul; and all that is within me, bless His holy name!”

        Or, I can say very quietly simple phrases like “Hosanna in the highest” – which really upset the Phrases (snakes and vipers, demonic spirits).

        Even in our mind – without words we can and should “worship” Him.

        Check out what Gideon did, as soon as he heard the telling of the dream and its interpretation, he worshiped (Judges 7:15).

        Where was Gideon when he worshiped God? And, how did he worship in this situation/environment?


        We should worship Him more often and in all environments.

        Thanks for continuing the dialogue on prayer!

        Psalm 37

  4. This article came just at the right time as the Lord is showing me the importance and absolute necessity for connection between genuine Christians.

    In the past seventeen years, I’ve learned that there are different reasons prayers are not answered. The first book addresses the more popular reasons and the second book addresses the more problematic but usually imperceptible reasons. Since summer ’12, the Lord has introduced me to a reason for unanswered prayers that has been overlooked for a very long time, especially in the Western culture of individualism: a lack of genuine Christian fellowship (where people are connected through the Spirit because of their Love for each other).

    While the Bible tells us we receive in prayer if we believe, Jesus specifies that there are things we cannot receive when praying alone but only when praying with Christians with whom we have genuine relationship: “If two of you agree on earth concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them by My Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them” (Mt. 18:19-20). The implication is clear: two or more must be in fellowship for certain prayers to be answered. Likewise, Jesus said, “I have come that they may have Life and have it more abundantly” (Jn. 10:10); but He didn’t explain that this abundant Life isn’t had individually but in the place of genuine fellowship; but David does: “How good and how pleasant it is when brethren dwell together in unity… For THERE the Lord commanded the blessing– Life forevermore (abundant)” (Ps. 133).

    What’s really at the root of so many unanswered prayers? A lack of genuine Christian fellowship is. Christians are meant to be the living Body of Christ (relationship, not institution) and are meant to function as a unit more than as individuals. “Do this, do that; read your Bible, pray harder, don’t be discouraged.” But let’s be honest: if you can’t do it, you can’t do it. That’s when and why you need others who will encourage and give you strength and do it with and sometimes for you. I myself have noticed that when I’ve sought God alone, it became sometimes impossible; but when I went to a church (even if there was no genuine relationship there) and just was among other Christians, then what was hard alone suddenly became easy. This is the missing link, and though in the world they can make things work without genuine and honest relationships, it isn’t so in Christ. In Christ, the only way ‘this thing’ really works is through the unity of the Spirit by Christians who genuinely love each other (Gal. 6:2).

    In the place of genuine fellowship between two or among two thousand, then the answers to prayers will definitely come (as well as the answers to what holds up answers): “When brethren dwell together in unity… THERE the Lord commanded the blessing” and the answers to prayers (Ps. 133). Sincere believers are to diligently seek to connect face to face with other honest believers, not sit around ‘waiting on God’ and wondering if there is an alternative for the present darkness in this world. The alternative is unfolded in the place of genuine Christian fellowship (not ‘church’) which is “Your Kingdom come; Your will be done on earth as in Heaven.”

    • arendale

      Very good! I guess that would come as reason (3) in the post above.

      I am glad you mentioned that.

    • Very true and timely post.
      I first read this post, then I [attempted] to contact my son, got news concerning his life crisis instead; today is his Birthday. I immediately called a prayer line, then posted request on a online prayer team I am in fellowship with and then came back to this site to request prayer and will also post on another. Jesus words always come to me especially when urgent, whenever 2 or more… Thank you for agreeing believers.
      My son is a lost sheep, the Good Shepherd whom> he, my son belongs~

      • Susan – God Bless You. What an incredible mother your son has, and even more so is your belief in our Good Shepard, along with your resoluteness; strength in your steadfastness, and tenacity in pursuing help for your son.

        May we, here on Marianne’s site, know the first name of your son and his age (approx is fine) as I personally wish to pray for him and others here might want to do so also.

        Marianne has quite an army of God’s soldiers here standing ready. (Well, God does.) 🙂


        • Bless you Denise and thank you for replying, we are here in one accord; I too appreciate your post on prayer & many you have written.

          As posted below, his name is Joel Aaron( Hebrew meaning: mountain/of God) He is now 42, I was 19 when he was born… He was 10 weeks early; the Dr. said as soon as he had his 1st breath he would not live…a Jewish doctor.
          Any glory of motherhood goes to my Redeemer, my heart has been broken over and over, through years of estrangement, etc.. He has 2 beautiful boys, they need prayer.
          I am no longer in grief over what he does or the enemy has stolen; my whole focus is on the Good Shepherd and who HE Is, bringing Full rest-oration in my life & his!
          I cannot thank you & everyone enough for your prayers, I ask for wisdom and will continually, *Praise God for the Peace passing All understanding…

  5. arendale,


    God bless you. Amen!

    Yes – it is when two or are more in agreement. Agreement – believe, knowing that their requests are heard. Confident, proclaiming the Word in prayer.

    “Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:16).

    “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart” (Jeremiah 29:13).

    “But let him [her] ask in faith, with no doubting, for he [she] who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. For let not that man [woman] suppose that he [she] will receive anything from the Lord; he [she] is a double-minded man, unstable in all his [her] ways” (James 1, NKJV).

    “The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man [woman] avails much” (James 5:16).


    • amen to you as well. thanks

    • Amen, DJ. “If two of you agree on earth concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for THEM.” That means that if two people get together to pray for one person’s need but the person agreeing doesn’t see it also as his need (as they are one Body), then there is no spiritual agreement; but if they agree in prayer and the one without the need associates the need of the other as his own also (and they continue in prayer), then “it will be done for THEM”. The Bible isn’t plain on the surface that God’s work is within a Body more than for individuals, but it is right there between the lines: as Christians fellowship together in spirit and truth, unanswered questions and prayers will begin to be answered, and unsolved issues and problems will begin to find solution and resolution, “for THERE, the Lord commanded the blessing” (Ps. 133:3).

  6. Marianne, this as always is very timely!!!! I have been warring with athalia since Tuesday. she is the daughter of ahab and jezebel. what was spoken was that it is her mission to steal our destiny. by unanswered prayer, low self worth, and poverty and illness. by any means necessary. I did a search on here and found nothing. just wondering if you have any info on this. as always i am open to questioning the validity of everything. don’t need to waste time on distractions and rabbit trails. thank you for this word and for any info you may have.

    • janelle

      see DJ’s comment below.

      You are in a battle with another jezebel, second generation, who has learned her tricks from her mom.

      she blocks your prayer by getting others to join her against you….so you need to do the same thing….back to her

      1. put her on notice that you are onto her, and are praying against her witchcraft.

      2. use the blood of jesus against her, by covering yourself and your prayers with the blood.

      3. get a support system to agree with you in prayer…

      4. pray and do no give up, god hears you.

      I am sending you some prayers against witchcraft and for strength…print them out and say them each day…. there is a space where you can include any spirit not mentioned…..I will be in agreement with you

      also watch the video posted under (1) on the post….

    • Janelle, I hope Marianne and DJ have been helpful. Here’s an online book about Jezebel and Athaliah: http://www.upstreamca.org/OvercomingJezebelPart2.pdf.

      Jezebel and Athaliah have been fighting to steal my destiny since I was a child. Before I was born, Athaliah tried to have my mom abort me through my aunt, the main witch in the Catholic family who totally emasculated her son and wants the rest for all men on earth. I hope you get the help and revelation you need.

  7. Names mean things:

    athalia: “whom God afflicts. (1.) The daughter of Ahab and Jezebel, and the wife of Jehoram, king of Judah (2 Kings 8:18), who “walked in the ways of the house of Ahab” (2 Chr. 21:6), called “daughter” of Omri (2 Kings 8:26). On the death of her husband and of her son Ahaziah, she resolved to seat herself on the vacant throne. She slew all Ahaziah’s children except Joash, the youngest (2 Kings 11:1,2). After a reign of six years she was put to death in an insurrection (2 Kings 11:20; 2 Chr. 21:6; 22:10-12; 23:15), stirred up among the people in connection with Josiah’s being crowned as king.”


    Also, please read the following link:

    “Her very name is an execration. She put the whole nation under the shadow of a great horror. She trampled on all faith. She violated all obligation. She lived with the shrieks of those she butchered in her ears.”


    Pray specifically against this evil, demonic spirit. It is not the person but the spirit oppressing and working through the person.

    I suggest taking time to write out your prayer – identify Scriptures, incorporate them into your prayer. Make this your prayer for your heart to the paper, then spoken.

    Seek verses within Psalms 3,5,9,18 and 37 among others.


  8. Check this out.


  9. Urgent, prayer request:
    For,Joel Aaron my son. The Father knows all the details, I ask for agreement in prayer for God to do a mighty work in his life so he may know the Peace that passes all understanding in his life crisis and Forever Seek & Praise HIS Holy name! I humbly ask in Jesus name. Thanks and bless all~
    Proverbs 11:21

    • Isaiah 54:17 No weapon formed against thee shall prosper.
      All evil bound in Jesus Precious name!

      • amen. we are in agreement with you. May the Lord protect and provide for Joel Aaron, and give him his peace, power, and presence, doing a quick work in his life.

  10. arendale,

    Do you have other links like the one posted above, overcoming Jez? If so, please share them.

    Thank you.

    • There are lots of articles and books written about the Jezebel spirit and fewer about Athaliah and Delilah. The above link is the one I found that includes Athaliah with Jezebel. What I really know is that though Daniel was able by himself to ‘draw answers’ past the ‘brass heavens’ of antagonistic evil spirits, we aren’t supposed to attempt too much spiritual battle alone (counterattacks and such can leave a Christian weary, confused, fearful, or discouraged). We should be with other godly or sincere Christians before entering these kinds of arenas. John Paul Jackson wrote a good book about the more serious end of counterattacks from the enemy when battle is waged without knowledge, but the counterattacks aren’t always apparent but can show us as sudden busyness (lots of things to tend to like family issues, etc.), financial problems, an overall weariness with life, etc. Jackson isn’t someone I’d really send anyone to for advice, but his book mentioned above has some precious insights that we don’t generally hear about today (today, we generally hear that a Christian should just put on the full armor and enter the fight; but it isn’t always so simple). His book can be found here where you can read several pages free: http://www.amazon.com/Needless-Casualties-John-Paul-Jackson/dp/158483000X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1406335786&sr=8-1&keywords=needless+casualties+of+war.

  11. Susan,


    Psalm 20

  12. Thank you, DJ & all
    We serve a Mighty, Loving, God~

  13. Marianne , what are your thought on head coverings for women in prayer because of the angels ?

  14. Well, after all we are lambs sent among loot thirsty wolves. I have got many times what I prayed but fellow citizens seem to have tendency to steal and spoil everything I receive or what I am about to receive.

    But first time I really knew that I receive what I pray was when I visited Israel 1996. There was folks who seemed to respect God at least a little. And second place was congregation of Jehowah Witnessess. There is no chance for me to receive anything I pray within Evangelist-Lutheran church or congregation. But of course even in Israel and JW there are wolves present. It is certainly no use to pray if you have not seperated yourself out of world. For world is lusty for your prayer answers.

  15. About prayer. God do answer prayers when we pray according to His will and not me, myself and I prayer. We need to wait and listen also what He has to say. It is not just a one way communication it should be a 2 way communication. We must enter into His Throne Room in faith and ask Him to cleanse us from all corrupted seed and renew us and have communion with Him. We have to live more in the spirit than in the flesh because He is Spirit and He made us and every thing on earth and in heaven. The Psalms are good prayers. You can pray it out loud and put any person’s name in and pray some of the Psalms. Jesus also said: what ever you ask in My name will be given to you. There are warfare prayers also available at website: http://www.kanaanminstries.org

  16. Dear Sister in Christ.
    I am writting this email I had written email to you earlier after keep on praying that prayer things were good now again its the same I feel dejected in life. whichever job or anything related to work or career I do I am a failure I have been without job since long. Now getting tired and stress is taking toll of me. I have started loosing hope.
    lavina Dsouza

    • dear lavina

      I think your discouragement is something many people are feeling right now. the enemy attacks us, and seems to be winning.

      you are not a failure….the world has failed YOU!

      Do not lose hope…the tribulation is starting soon, and everyone in the world will be in the same situation……

      our hope is in Jesus….he knows your needs and will provide for you….the ways he will do this will not be through jobs…but he will send other people to you to help you.

      I pray that god surrounds you with his angels for protection, that the holy spirit comforts you, and that jesus provides for you in miraculous ways.

      just pray and trust God….and let him take care of you.

  17. Love this. I agree with Lee. When we pray his will, our prayers are answered.

  18. I’ve been single for a long time. Now more than ever, I desire a husband. A man that can and will love me unconditionally. A man that’s truely after GOD’s own heat. A man that can and will see and love me with his heart. LORD I’m asking you right now to please send me husband. In JESUS name I ask and pray.

  19. Marianne,my husband has been unemployed for the past four years and nothing seems to be promising.we have been praying and fasting asking God to lead us but our prayers are not answered.is it maybe that we cannot hear Him talking back to us?i have never worked in my life because have never got any response from applications I used to send.this very thing is forming a pattern now to start affecting our twenty year old daughter.please help us.what can we do.have been to deliverance classes no sign of change.we are even about to lose our house now.we are in state of poverty.

    • mooke

      that is really a tough situation. just keep trying and do not give up. ask God each day to bless you and thank him for whatever you do have …..I will agree with you in prayer for a turn around, and that god blesses you and help you with your needs…. may he answer your prayers very soon.

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