Useless Apologies

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Talk is cheap.

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There are many relationships in this world that are continuing in an unpleasant mode because there are ongoing apologies for offenses when the person is not really sorry.

The offender finds it is easy to apologize, but not change their behavior, because the victim assumes wrongly that the offender actually means it.

So the offender just offends over and over again, and the victim remains the victim.

Another sign that the offender is not sorry is claiming victimhood when they are apprehended for doing something wrong. Suddenly, their victim becomes the “bully.”

The offender transfers blame to his victim(s), and therefore victimize them more.

Current examples:

(1)

Radical Islam tortures and murders Christians and other non-Muslims.

When true news is revealed or discussed, the Christians and other non-Muslim victims are accused of Islamophobia.

The blame/guilt has been transferred from offender to victim.

(2)

So called “comedian” Kathy Griffin is shown in the news with a mock severed bloody head of President Trump.

This is a clear hate action, and there is nothing “funny” about murdering him.

She is not laughing in the image.

She knows what she is doing.

People complain.

She apologizes because she loses prestige and jobs, not because she sees the horror of what she has done, or wants to offer acts of kindness to the Trump family, to reverse the harm done.

She pretends this is just a bad joke.

People reject the fake apology, as she has no intention of admitting the evil death threat.

Then, she claims SHE is the victim of the “bully” Trump.

Her true nature is revealed.

She has projected her own guilt onto President Trump, proving she sees no guilt in herself.

She is the offender, and has transferred the blame to her victim, President Trump.

(3)

Incidents are not confined to the non Christian world.

Christians also deal with this issue of fake apologies in their families, churches and workplaces.

Examples:

An unfaithful spouse, who just apologizes, with some excuse to smooth things over, so he/she will have a place to stay, and keep their mate around. Then, they will go out and cheat again.

Disobedient children who say “sorry” to parents, then disobey again.

Gossipers who apologize if they get caught, but continue to gossip.

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Jesus addressed offences during his time here:

Luke 17  King James Version (KJV)

17 Then said he unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come!

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Someone who is truly repentant will try to heal the situation, and make amends.

They will also STOP doing the offense.

So there is a positive change in their behavior.

If it is a habit, they will work hard to overcome the habit.

They will also avoid offensive people and bad company

Jesus said:

Now I urge you, brethren, note those who cause divisions and offenses, contrary to the doctrine which you learned, and avoid them. Romans 16: 17.

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For Victims

You should evaluate the sincerity of the apology.

You do not have to forgive, if the offender is not sorry.

You should be ready to forgive, however, and have forgiveness in your heart.

Learn from your own mistakes of believing false apologies, and enabling the offender.

You are not obligated to believe people’s lies.

Raise your standards, and pick more sincere people to be around you.

If the offenders are family, you may seem stuck with them, but you can make your expectations known. You want sincerity, not fake talk.

Actions speak louder than words.

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If the offender is sincere…………forgive!

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If you are the offender, face yourself, and face the truth of your behavior.

People are not going to buy your story forever.

They will wise up to you.

Do not go into denial.

Repent sincerely.

Realize the harm you have done.

See the injury you have caused.

See the evil.

Reject the evil for what it is, and stop doing it.

Your sin nailed Jesus to the cross.

Think about that for a few minutes.

If you do not repent, God will not forgive you.

“As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten. Therefore be zealous and repent. Revelation 3:19

For those who refuse to repent/apologize sincerely, divine punishment awaits:

But the rest of mankind, who were not killed by these plagues, did not repent of the works of their hands, Rev 9:20

And they did not repent of their murders or their sorceries or their sexual immorality or their thefts. Rev 9:21

And men were scorched with great heat, and they blasphemed the name of God who has power over these plagues; and they did not repent and give Him glory. Rev 16:9


76 Responses to “Useless Apologies”

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  2. If every person simply focused their life on their OWN lives and stopped being obsessive about what other people are doing or NOt doing, the world would be a much better place to live in. We have NO right to judge or condemn any human being for what they do. and it is the height of arrogance to attempt to control someone through wanting apologies… Every person on this planet has issues of some kind…. and we are all working thru them, and whilst doing so, it is much easier to simply focus on our own lives and STOP judging others, from a “holier than thou” position. NO human being is perfect, nor ever will be. ONLY God is perfect, so why get caught in the trivial TINY little world of egos and behaviour of other people… what is the point ??? YOu simply LOSE your own life, being obessively focussed on what other people are doing. The Bible tells us NOT to judge… and so called christians are the MOST common people who judge others… under the guise of “doing the right thing ” No human being has ANY right to judge the behaviour of any other person. If you have any issue with anyone JUST WALK AWAY…. LIFE is TOO short and TOO precious to get involved in such PETTY dramas… the world will sort itsef out…. WITHOUT the judgement of “pious christians” who have NO idea of why people are doing what they do…. it is THEIR business and NOT yours… Judge NOT lest you be judged… VERY SIMPLE

  3. “Our Father, who is in Heaven; Holy is your Name. Your Kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven. Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our tresspasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For yours is the Kingdom, the Power and the Glory.”

    It is the Lord’s prayer. The only aspect of all that was written in this articles was the idea that we do not have to forgive those who do not repent. I think this is an error. God the Father has the right not to forgive those who do not repent, we on the other hand must forgive, even our enemies.

    This scripture says it clearly: Matthew 6:14-15

    14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

    I think all of us would like people who sin against us to repent, to turn from their wickedness, tell us they were wrong and move forward and change their ways.

    The fact is, this doesn’t always happen. God will judge those who do not repent and He will withhold His forgiveness. We on the other hand have a mandate set upon us, in order for our sins to be forgiven we must both repent and also forgive others, whether they repent or not.

    Forgiving someone is one thing, keeping them in your circle of friends is something else altogether. If we have a non-repentant friend who continues to hurt us, we can forgive that person and also decide not to keep company with them.

    The wages of sin is death. If a person does not repent of their sins, something is going to die. In this scenario; a friendship would die. To put it simply, I would be saying “I forgive that person and will not hold a grudge against them, however; I will protect myself from further harm by not keeping them in my close circle of friends.

    It’s hard to be friends with someone you cannot trust, it’s really impossible. So, for you and I, a person may not repent, they may continue their horrible activities, but we will forgive them while at the same time guarding our own lives from further damage.

    Yeshua said, “Father forgive them for they know not what they do.” He forgave the unrepentant, it is a decision that yeshua made and asked His Father to make.

    We on the other hand, must repent of our sins if we want our Father in Heaven to forgive us and wash our sin away completely, He says He will remember it no more.

    I hope I have not offended anyone here, but I believe our own forgiveness hinges on our willingness to forgive those who don’t even think they need it.
    Blessings, Kasey

    • kasey

      I agree in general about the need to forgive, but consider it also says this:

      Repentance required for forgiveness:

      Luk 17:3 Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.

      Luk 17:4 And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.

      ***note: it says
      and if he repent, forgive him.
      IF,………..IF…………….this is between people….not between man and god

      Repentance and baptism

      Act 2:38 Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.

      Early Church

      Act 3:19 Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord;

      Act 26:20 But shewed first unto them of Damascus, and at Jerusalem, and throughout all the coasts of Judaea, and [then] to the Gentiles, that they should repent and turn to God, and do works meet for repentance.

  4. Giving an apology seems to be the current PR thing to do these days. CNN fired Kathy Griffin from future New Years celebrations. It seemed like an empty apology to me. People apologize because they get caught or they realize how offensive they were to others and it affects their bottom dollar.

    It is so easy to say, I’m sorry. I know those words are easy for me to say at times. It is almost automatic. It takes great courage to look at one’s own behavior, and not only know that our actions or words were hurtful to another, but to be truly sorry for those words or actions and ask for forgiveness.

    In the heat of actions it can be hard to forgive another when we feel wronged. To forgive does not mean that we have to forget. Either another’s actions, or our own.

    When I have thoroughly reviewed my own words or actions . . . That is when I give it over to our Lord.

  5. Always forgive. Always and right away for your own sake. If there is repentance then great! If not then you are not required to continue taking abuse. Pray for that person. That is the ultimate forgiveness. But always forgive right away. Nobody is perfect and that is an understatement! We live in a fallen world. God forgives us easily because He knows our spirit as it would be without being in this this fallen state. Easier said than done for us, but keep at it. Time will help.

    • Amy, that is THE perfect post. And forgive immediately we must, otherwise it will make you sick.

  6. Hi Marianne,

    I agree with you. Forgiveness is between the offended and God. If the offender does not ask for forgiveness or sincerely apoplogize to the person they hurt they rightfully do not recieve forgiveness. The action of prayer, forgiving them in the eyes of God ia a we need to do. Then we guard our hearts from that person. God does not expect us to hang out with rude hurtful people…..

    • elle

      to me, which there is also scripture for, god requires sincere repentance, and so should we

      to forgive over and over someone who is NOT sorry, just enables them more, and contributes to the continuation of sin

  7. http://www.sacbee.com/news/nation-world/national/article154354949.html


  8. Longing for the New Jerusalem; Matt Gilman

    • New Jerusalem
      Words by Matt and Alexia Gilman
      Music by Matt Gilman

      VERSE 1
      I’m looking for a city not made by human hands
      I’m longing for the garden where God once walked with man
      For eternity is written on my heart
      I’m longing for the day when we will never be apart

      VERSE 2
      I looked and saw a city descending down from heaven
      Prepared just like a bride for the Son of Man
      There’s a day of gladness written on His heart
      He is longing for the day when we will never be apart

      PRECHORUS
      Every tear will be wiped away, there’ll be no sorrow, hurt, or pain
      There’ll be no more night
      All things will be made new, it will be a brand new day
      And in righteousness He’ll reign and the Lamb will be the light

      CHORUS
      Behold the tabernacle of God will be with men
      And He will be our God, and we will be His people
      And the bride she will marry the Lamb
      But until that day I’m longing for the New Jerusalem

      I love the day of Your appearing, I want to hasten Your return
      The Spirit and the bride say, come for Your beloved ones.

      © 2011 Matt & Alexia Gilman C Forerunner Worship (ASCAP) a division of the International House of Prayer, Kansas Cit

  9. nice

  10. start from 1:17:00 the minister talk about the star of bethlehem

  11. Hi Marianne,

    i felt that Jerusalem is a open heaven place,

    i mean in Jerusalem, we could feel or see many spiritual thing,

    what do you think ? thanks

  12. Francis Frangipane Ministries

    The Wounds of a Prayer Warrior
    (En Español)
    Intercessors live on the frontier of change. We are positioned to stand between the needs of man and the provision of God. Because we are the agents of redemption, Satan will use a variety of methods to offend, discourage, strike or otherwise steal the strength of our prayers. The wounding we receive must be interpreted in light of God’s promise to reverse the effects of these attacks and actually make them work for our good (Rom. 8:28). Since spiritual assaults are inevitable, we must discover how God uses our wounds as the means to greater power. This was exactly how Christ brought redemption to the world, for it was by His wounds that we are healed (1 Pet. 2:24).
    Jesus knew that maintaining love and forgiveness in the midst of suffering was the key that unlocked the power of redemption. Isaiah 53:11 tells us, “By His knowledge the Righteous One, My Servant, will justify the many, as He will bear their iniquities.”
    Jesus possessed revelation knowledge into the mystery of God. He knew that the secret to unleashing world-transforming power was found at the cross, in suffering. At the cross, payment for sin was made. As Christ forgave His enemies, heaven’s power rent the temple veil in two. Christ’s stripes purchased our healing. I am not just talking about suffering, but the suffering of love.
    The terrible offense of the cross became the place of redemption for the world. Yet, remember, Jesus calls us to a cross as well (Matt. 16:24). Wounding is simply an altar upon which our sacrifice to God is prepared.
    Listen again to Isaiah’s prophetic description of Jesus’ life. His words at first seem startling, but as we read, we discover a most profound truth concerning the power of woundedness. He wrote, “But the Lord was pleased to crush Him, putting Him to grief; if He would render Himself as a guilt offering, He will see His offspring, He will prolong His days, and the good pleasure of the Lord will prosper in His hand” (Isa. 53:10).

    How did the power of God’s pleasure prosper in Christ’s hand? During His times of crushing, woundedness and devastation, instead of retaliating, Jesus rendered Himself “as a guilt offering.”

    The crushing is not a disaster; it is an opportunity. You see, our purposeful love may or may not touch the sinner’s heart, but it always touches the heart of God. We are crushed by people, but we need to allow the crushing to ascend as an offering to God. The greatest benefit of all is the effect our mercy has on the Father. If we truly want to be instruments of God’s good pleasure, then it is redemption, not wrath, that must prosper in our hands.

  13. Hi Marianne, how are you doing,

    just curious, i did not receive your comments recently ?

    is everything ok?

    God Bless

    • q

      I am ok. busy personal life.

      I am also involved with answering many requests for help on the website.

      • got, thanks for your helps always t!!!

        thanks for your answer ! God Bless

        May God keep you and strengthen you !!

        from grace to grace !!

  14. Hi Marianne,

    one of my friends says that when we dream a dead person (relative, friends },
    my friend say that is familiar spirit, counterfeit spirit , what is your thought ?
    i
    any thoughts, hope you could give some thoughts ?

    i do not agree with my friend.

    • how to tell which come from GOD, which come from the other side

    • i felt is the dream is dark color, i usually felt not to believe the dream. but if the dream is bright color, i will consider the dream.

      what is your thoughts, thanks

    • q

      It does not have to be a familiar spirit. you could just be dreaming about your friend. i dreamt last night about a friend who died last year


  15. Ex-Illuminati Banker Exposes The Elite – In English Audio – Ronald Bernard – Part 1

    • this is horrible, pizza gate , pedogate, pedophila ring

    • terrible experience, but at least he got out of it

      • yes,
        he is brave to expose it,
        quote from a german
        I am from Europe, I can tell you, my future children have no future! If Germans dare to say something about the leftist politicians they are called nazis. You are not allowed to think.

  16. sorry, i will go back to the Word of God.

  17. http://www.elshaddaiministries.us/livestream.php
    https://livestream.com/accounts/1969900/events/7525009






  18. Hi Marianne,

    how are you !

    book of revelation 12 , who is the woman , who is the boy ? what do you think?

    pastor Neville johnson said

    the woman is church

    the man-child is actually a company of man -child , God’s remnants ,

    what do you think ?

    thanks

    • q

      I do not know

      woman is either ISrael or the church

      man child is either christ or the raptured christians

      • ok, thanks !

        you support pre-trib , mid-trib or post -trib rapture

        • it depends on your definition of tribulation (seals, trumpets, vials)

          i think we go at the 6th seal, as it happens.

          see matt 24, jesus describes the 6 seals and that AFTER them (tribulation), we will see him coming for us

          the rest is the wrath of god

  19. this is good movie !


  20. Christian BlockJ
    Vilna Gaon was an 18th century Rabbi who noticed that the number of the verse in Torah sometimes corresponded to what was occurring to Israel during the corresponding Hebrew year. The two most recent examples that support his theory come from the Hebrew year 5700 and 5708. The Holocaust began in the Hebrew year of 5700. The 5700th verse of the Torah is Deuteronomy 29:27 “Therefore the Lord’s anger burned against this land, so that he brought on it all the curses written in this book.” The Nation of Israel was re-established in 5708. The 5708th verse of Torah is Deuteronomy 30:5 “He will bring you to the land that belonged to your ancestors, and you will take possession of it. He will make you more prosperous and numerous than your ancestors.” The current Hebrew year is 5777 and the corresponding 5777th verse from Torah is Deuteronomy 32:25 “In the street the sword will make them childless; in their homes terror will reign. The young men and young women will perish, the infants and those with gray hair.” If Vilna Gaon was correct, it would indicate that war will come to Israel not only in 2017, but also before the start of the Hebrew year of 5778. The last day of the Hebrew year 5777 is September 20th.

    What’s the verse for 5778?Deuteronomy 32:26

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