Getting passed over



Life is full of disappointments.

Many times we work hard for something, and we do not get it.


We spend years getting the experience, building up references, and doing a good job. We go back to school, to increase our qualifications and credentials. Then we apply for a better job, and we are rejected. We watch others who appear to be less qualified take what we were hoping for. Why?

We put much effort into our marriage or family relationships. Then our spouse leaves us for someone else, and our children would rather be with their friends, than with us. Why?

We work to maintain our property and home. One day, we put it up for sale. We have no buyers, but the guy next door, with the sloppy yard, and less maintained home, sells his home for a big profit. Why him, and not us?


One day, I was walking along, reflecting on how much I had been passed over for blessings in my life.

I felt sad, like I had missed out on a lot. There were many, many things denied to me, that I worked so hard for. I had gotten left behind too many times.

I asked God, why am I always being passed over for everything?

A still small voice boomed back:

I…… passed over you!!!!!!!!

I got the point.

When man passes over us, it is harm to us.

When God passes over us, we are protected and blessed.

Recall the Israelites in Egypt, on the night before they left.

They had to stay inside, and do special things, and not go outside.

Yet, they were the ones saved from the Angel of Death.

So, God will also allow us to be “passed over” for our protection, even when it looks like it is man doing it.

When an opportunity seems missed, it might be that we are being saved from an “Egyptian bondage” of our own.

27 Responses to “Getting passed over”

  1. Beautiful point. I NEVER complain when I am hindered from a thing I have planned. I ALWAYS know God is guiding my paths and that the hindrance was sent to deliver me from an unknown temptest in my path. I ALWAYS say, ‘Thank you, Father, for your many mercies…and for the hindrance which has altared my planned path.’

    Learning this one lesson has given me PATIENCE and has increased my FAITH.

    Again, beautfiful point.

  2. Psa 39:5
    Behold, thou hast made my days [as] an handbreadth; and mine age [is] as nothing before thee: verily every man at his best state [is] altogether vanity
    Ecc 1:2
    Vanity of vanities, saith the Preacher, vanity of vanities; all [is] vanity
    Ecc 1:14
    I have seen all the works that are done under the sun; and, behold, all [is] vanity and vexation of spirit.

    • Isa 59:4 None calleth for justice, nor [any] pleadeth for truth: they trust in vanity, and speak lies; they conceive mischief, and bring forth iniquity.

      And so do not weep for what never came to you.

      • Eph 4:17 This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind,

  3. The timing for me to read this article, couldn’t have been more perfect!! It’s so amazing how God works – His ways are perfection. I had JUST asked others for prayer, because I was lamenting not being able to do a family trip, that I deeply want & believe that I truly “deserve.” But I haven’t been able to pull it together for a number of reasons. Within minutes of asking for prayer, I received Marianne’s email with the link to “Passed Over.” It described my feelings to a tee. God has His reasons that I cannot go, I am sure now & that timely reminder brought me comfort and renewed my faith.

    • hi Cindy,

      I am glad it helped you. You have been on my mind and prayer list for quite a while now. I was wondering how you were doing. Email me, and let me know.

  4. Thank you for this post. I feel as though I have been paased over for several opportunities that I thought were for me. However because of this post, I know that God is watching over me and making my paths straight. Thank you Lord for being Alpha and Omega.

  5. That was great. Timing of this was great. I just recently got passed over. Thank You for post.

  6. How true this is! My family has experienced this, even when I was not in Christ…

    In the early 1990s, when my father worked with Air India as Deputy Director Finance, he craved to be promoted to Director. Somehow, being honest and not being a “yes boss” type person, he was passed over. Then something happened…
    In a major finance scam, it was revealed that Air India was involved in it, through one of its top management personnel. The person who was promoted to Director Finance (instead of my father), was suspended for a year, put on half pay and his official car was withdrawn. Neither my father nor this gentleman knew anything about the scam. Somebody else waas involved. But this person happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. Out of shock, he suffered a heart attack and his wife took to drugs. My father was spared. Now I know that God had passed over him!

    As the Word of God says, “I have inscribed you on the palm of my hand.” O how comforting it is to know that we are in God’s control and God’s in charge!

    Please pray for my father and mother’s salvation. Thanks and God bless you, Marianne and all your readers!

  7. Joel O’Steen recently wrote a book, “Your Best Life Now.”

    The problem with 21st century Christians is that they believe worldly success IS God’s plan.

    So Joel, you believe God wants me wealthy, successful and enjoying every minute of life to it’s fullest?

    How is that possible in this satanic world?

    Why would a believer in Yeshua even want happiness in Satan’s world?


    We are here to become believers and then lead the unsaved to Christ, that is life’s main purposes.

    Let me ask you Christian, when was the last time you wept with ANGUISH over this unsaved world?

    Please view this video of David Wilkerson, it’s only a few minutes long, but may drastically change your life.

    This world is evil, filled with filth and gross sin. We must live in it, but we are not to partake of it’s many temptations.

    The problem with this story is that this person had her priorities all wrong, she had her self-centered blinders on.

    Blind to the true riches of Christ.


    May our Lord and Savior Yeshua, have His way with us.

    Mary Kay

  8. How odd to hear about passed over. I never truly thought about it nor did I think that way either. 🙂 Growing up and even now in my late 30’s, I always have seen everyone else success in many ways.. I just shrugged.. Example: my strongest dislike is money, new cars, houses, roads, people’s negative behavior… foul languages.. you name entire list…
    I often knew I am very smart… maybe more than I let on yet I refuse to use it for gain.. There is aboulsately nothing here I desire except to have the Earth back to normal.. excat the way God wants it to be as ” natural “… I know you might find me strange… My entire family are successful.. most of them are.. yet they look at me and whisper behide my back which I always sense so keenly spite of my hearing loss…wondered if I am living in fantasy world because I do not share same views as everyone else.. I admit at times, I do feel sad or envy others yet honest with them at same time.. and always wanted do things that I should have done long time ago… but I didn’t. My sense of duty and heart took over to abandon it all and to be 24/7 full time mother raising 3 challenging deaf pre teen children and now looking after my mother.. I did nearly decide on moving out of state but my sense of duty and love won out. I cannot leave my mother behide. So I stay with her until she passes.. and bring my kids to see her as much as possible. But there is so many questions in my mind that reminds silent upon my lips.. I couldn’t ask because I knew I will be critized. I wouldn’t give messages because I knew that other people will talk down.
    Often my thoughts always was so simply: ” Everyone else seem got everything that I don’t have seems so unfair.. yet I wish everyone from cross world to come together as a family.. I see everyone as brothers and sisters no matter what skin colors are. It’s okay that if I am rebuked or unloved or hated by others but it does not take away what and who I am..”
    Believe me, it is very tormential times to often feel like abandoned.. and thinking of self as worthless…God is too beautiful … too pure to reach and touch.. afraid to soil him by touching which I kept my distance in respect. What I am saying.. I am rather immune to everything from this earth. Pardon my honesty. I have asked myself humanly and living soul if I understand what will lays ahead when God comes.. and how was my reactions… It is very challenging but helpful to build self in strength and wisdom thru God.. Hard to explain. Here’s a example of asking self the question… ” Will you love God any less if He toss you into hell ?”
    ” Will you love God any less if you have been abused and everything else ?”
    ” Will you be willing to surrender yourself in honor and honest before God on your basic daily ?”
    ” Will you be willing to risk yourself for Him?”

    Those are just example of questions to self. I humbly apologize if I sound a bit strange or aburpt with anyone. Passed over is an excellent way to help others…to understand. I do understand.. without knowing how I understood. Anyway, you all have a wonderful holidays..Many blessings upon you all.

  9. From Tamera’s write-up, I get the feeling that she is not yet a born again Christian. If she is, good and praise the LORD!

    We shouldn’t look at God’s Holiness and feel lowly and turn away from Him. He gave His Son Jesus so we could wash our sins in Jesus’ blood. Approach God in prayer and ask Him to cleanse you, or to heal your wounds. He will – His word is the true gentleman’s word. We should draw near to Him rather than let the distance grow.

  10. Excatly, Marianne..and no.. THANK YOU. 🙂 I am still enjoying to read and contuine to learn daily.

    For KET AN RIND ANI : I do not need to say I am Christian nor do I need to say I am NOT Christian.. Any religions makes NO difference to me because God is ONLY one I keep between and no one else. That’s enough for me. No one.. not even you can concive me otherwise. Only God can. Let’s leave at that.

  11. Tamera…I sense you are trying very hard to obey God, who is truth and goodness above all. Yet you are a little bitter because you try so hard and have hurt feelings from people. There are few women who don’t love money, so you’re in a select company! I am a devout Christian and love to read Gandhi on simplicity and seeking truth…because he kept growing and seeking all his life, admitting to mistakes, being mischievous and fun. I suggest you watch the Marx brothers and innocent fun movies like “What About Bob?” God sends humor and good entertainment to cheer the hearts of conscientious people Stay away from gloomy and punitive religion…that is for those in luxury, to feel better about themselves. That’s not for you. Caring for your mother is beautiful…you are being protected and more blessed than you imagine. Let Jesus tease you…”Come unto Me all ye who labor and are heavy laden and I will give you REST. Take my yoke upon you and learn of Me, for I am meek and lowly of heart, and Ye shall find rest unto your souls.”

  12. hi deanna

    Thanks for the kind words for Tamera.

    It is nice to see people ministering to each other.

    God bless you.

  13. Deanna,

    Thank you for your kind words. I am not truly bitter.. Just very tired at such early age in late 30’s to battle humanly in general daily and battle in spirit daily also.. I understood both sides without knowing how or why.. which I always stay silent of questioning it.
    And nay bitter.. mostly disappointed.. Disappointed that people are getting worse.. not better.. and most of all my own children being rebelled against me daily of being in their teen stage and peer pressure.. and I had to remind myself everyday that God is my strength and I mustn’t give up for ANY reasons.. Good or bad.. I must overcome everything if I am able.
    I am uhm.. empathy.. and extremely sensitive to everyone surrounding me in their moods.. or their talking minds I sometimes can hear its wheel grinding and talking.. it just creeps me out. Most of all, I have been armed myself to teeth for 24/7 nonstop.. even in sleeping or waking state.
    Sometimes, I forget to stop and take a deep breath and refresh myself in requesting do so through God.. lol.. When my mind is too oppucied.. I forget to remind myself.. 🙂
    Therefore, I avoid dark… or dark people because I do know who and what they are.. in real mask.. not hidden ones.. Sometimes I get so sick of looking at them I had to lock myself at home to stay away..

    As for movie, You have no idea.. I always had to sneak at night after kids in bed to look for humor movies.. something value words from bible also… so I can feel comforted. Laughter and humor is part of my life.. without it.. there is no healing for me. 🙂 Mischievous nature.. hmmm * twinkle eyes * I do that often.. * clear thoart * by picking on my poor best friend and “hubby” of 11 years.. He knew what and who I am… and sees what real heart I have hidden from everyone.. But… BAD part is.. my protective nature is way worse than him.. * laugh * More like headlock on whom shall protect whom..
    I truly do not mean to sound bitter at all.. I am only stating the real fact of life and not ashame of it.. Naw, to me, it is more like experiencing life and to understand why people do such a thing. And learning how to study people.. especially evil ones that are attempting to control people.. I recongize them without being taught.
    I seal my lips for time of being.. my bad.. because my children just arrived from school.. thundering through my room. LOL.. I better go and take care of them.

    Thank you very much.. And yes I agree with you about Jesus.. I remember that words.. it wrote in my heart since child.. but cannot pronounce it lol… You have a wonderful weekday.. and be safe on weekend.

  14. Do you believe in the Fourth Commandment?

  15. Yes, I believe in Fourth Commandment about Sabbath and to keep it holy…
    Only problem I have is.. I have no idea how to do it properly since no one around any chruches nor anyone really bother to teach that part.. which bothers me..

  16. This reminds me of a saying I heard recently–sometimes rejection is God’s protection.

  17. Dear marianne, I am late on reading this because I’m somewhat new to this website. Your website is so God filled and awesome. I have read many headings here and I must say I have been inspired. I just read, ”Getting Passed Over”.l feel like that that so many times. Seems as though all I try to do fails, nothing works out for me, but I thank God and Jesus still. I’m struggling to get my math down so I can move to the next level, that seems as though the info won’t stick in my head. This is very important to me because its the next step to my goal. In Nov. 2008 a voice came to me and said ,”God is real’. The next month I was in a tragic accident. I came out without scratches, no trace of injuries, yet my truck looked like a smashed soda can. I KNOW God and Jesus Christ is real. I just Need help actually focusing on this and really appling it with faith through the toughest of my trails I’m facing in stead of worring. What do I really need to do. I know I am loved. Please help me.

    • dear Sherry

      Math is not my strong point either. We have our goals and our obstacles. While the world sees differently sometimes, God sees the effort more than the outcome of the effort.

      Whether we succeed or not, everything we learn and try to learn is still helping us. The knowledge will come in useful somehow, at some point.

      You are right, God is with us, if we love and obey him. Seek him and his will, and make sure your on on the path that HE wants, not what YOU want.

      I did this once…I decided what I wanted and forgot to ask God about it. things were hard. But even pursuing my own goals, he showed up to help, when things became a struggle. he knew I was sincere in my pursuit, and even though it was not what he wanted for me, he still was supportive. I now just wait to hear from him.

      What he has for each of us is much greater than what we plan for ourselves. Seek his plan for you, and make sure it is compatible with what he wants. usually we are in a hurry to get something done, and many times God makes us wait, to teach us patience. So, seek and while you wait, do your best. That is all God and the world would expect out of anyone.

  18. Currently there are 1092 posts on ‘Prayer Against Witchcraft Control’, while only 22 are here on ‘Getting passed over’. I’ve experience Witchcraft assaults many times, and I’ve experienced a whole lot of Getting passed over. Both of these increased as my walk with Jesus became more serious.

    The losses and missed ‘blessings’ have been, in a word …considerable. Walking with Jesus has cost me everything, the pearl of great price… What I have gained is intimacy with my Holy creator. On the surface, it looks like I’ve made the worst mistake, most foolish decision anyone could ever make with their life, i.e. choosing to follow Yahoshua.

    I would choose exactly the same path, in a New York second.

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      I don’t understand the passing over sometimes, but with God, it is for a different reason than man does it. I just have to trust Him, and hold on to my faith. To others, it might seem like a failure of mine, but to Him, I am exactly where I need to be.

      • Heb 11:1 Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

        Faith Marianne, Yes mine the same as yours, the same as all the ‘Children of Faith’, the whole family of Creator God.

        I thank Yahoshua that in loving kindness he sought me out when I knew him not. I thank Yahoshua that he exercised compassion to meet me on my knees with resurrecting authenticity. I thank Yahoshua for being a Good Shepherd – persistently leading me forward with a gentle hand step by step thru his WORD, SPIRIT, and PRAYER. I thank Yahoshua that he by his blood cleansed my mind, giving me a clear conscience though my imperfections condemned me. I thank Yahoshua that he gave me a new family both the great crowd of saints gone ahead and the whole host of holy angels sent forth to minister life. I thank Yahoshua that he has met me in silence when none other remembered me. I thank Yahoshua that he continues to fascinate my curiosity with new discoveries every day. I thank Yahoshua that he watches over all my comings and goings – protecting me COUNTLESS times from snares, accidents, foolishness, etc. I thank Yahoshua that he allows me to participate in his purposes. I thank Yahoshua that his ‘Faithful and True’ name seals me with a sure promise of life everlasting – that my cup be appointed to overflow continually all the days my life, plus forevermore…! [‘Faithful and True’ name: Jer42:5, Rev3:14, Rev19:11, Rev21:5, & Rev22:6]
        A few related scripture verses:
        Ps 103:2 Bless Jehovah, O my soul, and forget not all His benefits; v3 who forgives all your iniquities; who heals all your diseases; v4 who redeems your life from ruin; who crowns you with loving-kindness and tender mercies; v5 who satisfies your mouth with good; your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.

        Heb 11:6 …without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that comes to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.

        Heb 11:25,26 Choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God, than to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a season; v26 Esteeming the reproach of Christ, greater riches than …treasures…

        Heb 13:5,6 …be content with such things as you have: for he has said, I will never leave you, nor forsake you. v6 So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.

        2Co 4:8-11 We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; v9 Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed; v10 Always bearing about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our body. v11 For we which live are always delivered unto death for Jesus’ sake, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our mortal flesh.

  19. life on earth is not about avoidance. it is about learning. He is a lonely God. he wants us to be with him. we do this by learning. that is all there is.

  20. Thank you

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