Healing for Jezebel
Now that we know about her, how do we help the soul that is bound and free her?
Who should be the vessel that God uses?
This is, for sure, the most difficult section for me to write. Healing a human soul after a deliverance, or after a person repents, or is stopped in their tracks is something only God can really do. Anyone who has been involved with her most likely dislikes her, or has negative memories of bad experiences with her.
So, anyone that God uses to help her has to forget who they are, what they feel, and what their memories tell them. They have to be lost in the love and will of God, in order to reach out, and help heal someone who has been so wicked, unrepentant, and damaging. The only person the former, or arrested, Jezebel should see in front of her is Jesus Himself. Only He can heal and deliver. Only He can touch and make her whole. Any person who tries to interject their own ways and methods will destroy all that God would want to happen. It will take someone who is close to God, who is pure of heart, forgiving, who can love unconditionally after being damaged, who is whole and mature in spirit. They need to be lost to self, and dwell in the shadow of the Almighty’s wings. That is to say, the “flesh” has to be dead, and the human spirit in submission to the direction of the Holy Spirit.
Consecration to divine will is paramount. Purity of heart is essential.
The Bible tells of a newly anointed king who was able to destroy Jezebel by commanding her eunuchs (castrated slaves-victims) to throw her out the window. Jehu is not a passive male, but a masculine one, fully accountable, responsible, honorable, strong, decisive, highly moral and ethical, a leader who is self –realized and confident, a man whom God can trust to do his will, not given to lust, but has self control, and submits to the will of God. Jehu is the one to take the next step.
Jehu is should be a male, because of the ultimate influence he will have on Jezebel’s spirit, but if one is not around, then a woman who is gentle, spiritual, and a strong mother figure can substitute until a male Jehu is found. (Why a male? Because early on, the physical and spiritual power, ie. positive control, protection, she was seeking from her real father was not there, and so she had to become a power unto herself. Power and control became essential for self protection, since protection and control was missing as a child.)
Jehu’s role will be spiritual, definitely non-sexual, and one of authority over her. Jehu must have authority over both Ahab and Jezebel. He cannot be a subordinate to either of them.
Jehu’s first mission: Divide and conquer
Jezebel has always gotten her power from 2 sources: Ahab and her social network. She has to be separated from these influences in every way. She has to be totally cut off from them, or she will be re-infected. This will also be important in helping a recovering Ahab as well. Ahab must not have any supervisory role over her, even in a distant way. If this is the workplace, Jezebel and Ahab must be reassigned so that jezebel cannot manage under the authority of Ahab, or vice versa. If this is the marriage, a temporary physical separation is needed. If this is the church, then they need to be socially disassociated from each other.
Jehu’s second mission: Go back to her roots
What was the cause of the original behavior?
1 Re-enter the father figure – good and pure and loving. Jezebel needs to find the godly kind of love she never had with her father, and re-discover it in an elder, male mentor. Counseling can be set up for frequent contacts. Jezebel can review her life with her new father figure. He will give her the strength she never had before, so she can learn it is ok to be gentle, and weak sometimes, because she is protected now. She can go to him when she is hurt or afraid or angry.
The mentor should have an objective role in whatever situation she is in – work, home, church, etc. and she should be able to confide in him without worry of others knowing what is said. The mentor will listen to her story, then slowly, over time, guide her gently in the right direction. The safer she feels, the less aggressive she will become. The defenses and false behavior will decrease as she finds emotional security in her new father and friend. She will find value again as a woman, and learn she can have respect just for who she is. She will also learn that God loves her, and is a true Father as well. She will learn to feel loved. Instead of doubt, she will experience faith again. Anger will be replaced with forgiveness and gentleness. She will learn to trust more, and release control, instead of maintaining it to protect herself.
The father figure can be Jehu himself, or a trusted, qualified individual that Jehu recognizes as appropriate.
2. Re-enter the mother figure. If the early mother figure was somehow a failure to jezebel, an elder mother figure needs to enter. She enters as a companion, successful, objective, loving, caring, holy, and supportive. Jezebel needs a female role model to learn how to behave and learn from. She needs to learn the nurturing, spiritual values unique to women.
3. Both elder figures will advocate and explain the moral values that God has provided. Sinful behaviors will be discouraged, with calm explanations, and godly behavior will be encouraged and rewarded. No guilt will be assigned to her, but as she is encouraged to follow a godly path, she will win the praises of her new parents. She will learn that this is the way she really wanted to begin with.
They will both also explore the roots of her feelings, and help her see how everything went wrong, and why she chose to behave in the wrong way. She will learn to accept that positive behaviors are ultimately more rewarding. For example, she does not need to control a world if she feels safe in it. She no longer needs to seduce men to get love. She feels loved and valued without having to perform seduction now, and without demanding it. She will need a lot of positive re-enforcement of her new, more acceptable behaviors, in order to establish them as more permanent behaviors.
This may take months, or years, to accomplish. Or, you never know, she may bloom almost overnight. Sometimes the more strongly a person has been held captive by Satan, the more quickly they run in the opposite direction, once they are free, and know they are safe.
Jehu’s final mission: help Ahab recover
We need to understand that Ahab is a victim too. He also needs to explore his roots and have positive father and mother figures enter into his life as mentors and counselors. He needs to have the same help that Jezebel gets. Why is he so weak and afraid and dependent? He needs to discover that he has a Jehu inside of himself, who is his true self. Once he finds Jehu within, then he can finally find his strengths and true role in his environment.