Woe To Him That is Alone


Be alone and lose the battle.

God made man to be with woman in the beginning.

He also promoted families.


The Bible says

The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Gen 2:18

It also says

9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.

10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falls; for he has not another to help him up.

11 Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?

12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

. Eccles 4: 9-12


Inherent in Adam was the need for someone else to be around. Man was made for fellowship. To be solitary was against his human nature.

Man was meant to have friends, wives, children, brothers, sisters etc.

In biology, we have something called the synergistic effect:

More than one accomplishes much more than each one can do alone.

There is power in numbers.

There is something about working together as a team.

It makes whatever you accomplish seem “bigger” and more valuable.

The Father YHVH God Himself would not create the world without including his Son Jesus / Yeshua and the Holy Spirit.


Divide and conquer

In early history, one tactic of most armies would be to divide its enemies up, and conquer each division at a time.

This can be done physically, economically, with religion, socially, politically, and geographically.

One step further is to ISOLATE the enemy so that it is vulnerable.

Satan does this.


Isolation can have negative effects on us physically and mentally


We’ve known for a while that isolation is physically bad for us. Chronically lonely people have higher blood pressure, are more vulnerable to infection, and are also more likely to develop Alzheimer’s disease and dementia.

Loneliness also interferes with a whole range of everyday functioning, such as sleep patterns, attention and logical and verbal reasoning.

The mechanisms behind these effects are still unclear, though what is known is that social isolation unleashes an extreme immune response – a cascade of stress hormones and inflammation. This may have been appropriate in our early ancestors, when being isolated from the group carried big physical risks, but for us the outcome is mostly harmful.

Yet some of the most profound effects of loneliness are on the mind. For starters, isolation messes with our sense of time.

One of the strangest effects is the ‘time-shifting’ reported by those who have spent long periods living underground without daylight. In 1961, French geologist Michel Siffre led a two-week expedition to study an underground glacier beneath the French Alps and ended up staying two months, fascinated by how the darkness affected human biology.

He decided to abandon his watch and “live like an animal”. While conducting tests with his team on the surface, they discovered it took him five minutes to count to what he thought was 120 seconds.

A similar pattern of ‘slowing time’ was reported by Maurizio Montalbini, a sociologist and caving enthusiast.

In 1993, Montalbini spent 366 days in an underground cavern near Pesaro in Italy that had been designed with Nasa to simulate space missions, breaking his own world record for time spent underground.

When he emerged, he was convinced only 219 days had passed. His sleep-wake cycles had almost doubled in length. Since then, researchers have found that in darkness most people eventually adjust to a 48-hour cycle: 36 hours of activity followed by 12 hours of sleep. The reasons are still unclear.


After emerging from a nine week stint in underground darkness, Michel Siffre needed to wear a blindfold to protect his eyes (Getty Images)

As well as their time-shifts, Siffre and Montalbini reported periods of mental instability too.

But these experiences were nothing compared with the extreme reactions seen in notorious sensory deprivation experiments in the mid-20th Century.

In the 1950s and 1960s, China was rumoured to be using solitary confinement to “brainwash” American prisoners captured during the Korean War, and the US and Canadian governments were all too keen to try it out.

Their defence departments funded a series of research programmes that might be considered ethically dubious today.

The most extensive took place at McGill University Medical Center in Montreal, led by the psychologist Donald Hebb. The McGill researchers invited paid volunteers – mainly college students – to spend days or weeks by themselves in sound-proof cubicles, deprived of meaningful human contact.

Their aim was to reduce perceptual stimulation to a minimum, to see how their subjects would behave when almost nothing was happening.

They minimized what they could feel, see, hear and touch, fitting them with translucent visors, cotton gloves and cardboard cuffs extending beyond the fingertips.

As Scientific American magazine reported at the time, they had them lie on U-shaped foam pillows to restrict noise, and set up a continuous hum of air-conditioning units to mask small sounds.

After only a few hours, the students became acutely restless.

They started to crave stimulation, talking, singing or reciting poetry to themselves to break the monotony.

Later, many of them became anxious or highly emotional.

Their mental performance suffered too, struggling with arithmetic and word association tests.


Sensory deprivation can cause hallucinations – sometimes starting with geometric shapes or points of light, and then getting stranger… (Akuei/Flickr)

But the most alarming effects were the hallucinations.

They would start with points of light, lines or shapes, eventually evolving into bizarre scenes, such as squirrels marching with sacks over their shoulders or processions of eyeglasses filing down a street.

They had no control over what they saw: one man saw only dogs; another, babies.

Some of them experienced sound hallucinations as well: a music box or a choir, for instance.

Others imagined sensations of touch: one man had the sense he had been hit in the arm by pellets fired from guns. Another, reaching out to touch a doorknob, felt an electric shock.

When they emerged from the experiment they found it hard to shake this altered sense of reality, convinced that the whole room was in motion, or that objects were constantly changing shape and size.

Distressing end

The researchers had hoped to observe their subjects over several weeks, but the trial was cut short because they became too distressed to carry on.

Few lasted beyond two days, and none as long as a week. Afterwards, Hebb wrote in the journal American Psychologist that the results were “very unsettling to us…

It is one thing to hear that the Chinese are brainwashing their prisoners on the other side of the world; it is another to find, in your own laboratory, that merely taking away the usual sights, sounds, and bodily contacts from a healthy university student for a few days can shake him, right down to the base.”

In 2008, clinical psychologist Ian Robbins recreated Hebb’s experiment in collaboration with the BBC, isolating six volunteers for 48 hours in sound-proofed rooms in a former nuclear bunker.

The results were similar. The volunteers suffered anxiety, extreme emotions, paranoia and significant deterioration in their mental functioning.

They also hallucinated: a heap of 5,000 empty oyster shells; a snake; zebras; tiny cars; the room taking off; mosquitoes; fighter planes buzzing around.

A clip from BBC Horizon’s Total Isolation experiment – read more information about the programme here.

Why does the perceptually deprived brain play such tricks?

Cognitive psychologists believe that the part of the brain that deals with ongoing tasks, such as sensory perception, is accustomed to dealing with a large quantity of information, such as visual, auditory and other environmental cues.

But when there is a dearth of information, says Robbins, “the various nerve systems feeding in to the brain’s central processor are still firing off, but in a way that doesn’t make sense.

So after a while the brain starts to make sense of them, to make them into a pattern.” It creates whole images out of partial ones.

In other words, it tries to construct a reality from the scant signals available to it, yet it ends up building a fantasy world.

Such mental failures should perhaps not surprise us. For one thing, we know that other primates do not fare well in isolation.

One of the most graphic examples is psychologist Harry Harlow’s experiments on rhesus macaque monkeys at the University of Wisconsin-Madison during the 1960s, in which he deprived them of social contact after birth for months or years.

They became, he observed, “enormously disturbed” even after 30 days, and after a year were “obliterated” socially, incapable of interaction of any kind. (A comparable social fracturing has been observed in humans: consider the children rescued from Romanian orphanages in the early 1990s, who after being almost entirely deprived of close social contact since birth grew up with serious behavioural and attachment issues.)


We may crave solitude occasionally, but in the long term it’s not good for us physically or mentally (Getty Images)

Secondly, we derive meaning from our emotional states largely through contact with others.

Biologists believe that human emotions evolved because they aided co-operation among our early ancestors who benefited from living in groups. Their primary function is social.

With no one to mediate our feelings of fear, anger, anxiety and sadness and help us determine their appropriateness, before long they deliver us a distorted sense of self, a perceptual fracturing or a profound irrationality.

It seems that left too much to ourselves, the very system that regulates our social living can overwhelm us.

Take the 25,000 inmates held in “super-maximum security” prisons in the US today.

Without social interaction, supermax prisoners have no way to test the appropriateness of their emotions or their fantastical thinking, says Terry Kupers, a forensic psychiatrist at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, California, who has interviewed thousands of supermax prisoners.

This is one of the reasons many suffer anxiety, paranoia and obsessive thoughts.

Craig Haney, a psychologist at the University of California, Santa Cruz, and a leading authority on the mental health of inmates in the US, believes that some of them purposefully initiate brutal confrontations with prison staff just to reaffirm their own existence – to remember who they are.

Coping strategy

Social isolation is not always debilitating, however.

Are some better than others at coping? And can you train yourself to resist the worst effects?

Here scientists have fewer hard answers, but we can at least look to the lessons of individuals who thrived – or floundered – under isolation.

When Shourd was imprisoned in Iran, she was arguably among the least-equipped people to cope, because her incarceration came out of the blue.

People in her circumstances have their world suddenly inverted, and there is nothing in the manner of their taking – no narrative of sacrifice, or enduring for a greater good – to help them derive meaning from it.

They must somehow find meaning in their predicament – or mentally detach themselves from their day-to-day reality, which is a monumental task when alone.

Hussain Al-Shahristani managed it.

He was Saddam Hussein’s chief nuclear adviser before he was tortured and shut away in Abu Ghraib prison near Baghdad after refusing on moral grounds to cooperate on the development of an atomic weapon.

He kept his sanity during 10 years of solitary confinement by taking refuge in a world of abstractions, making up mathematical problems which he then tried to solve.

He is now deputy energy minister of Iraq.

Edith Bone, a medical academic and translator, followed a similar strategy during the seven years she spent imprisoned by the Hungarian communist government after World War Two, constructing an abacus out of stale bread and counting out an inventory of her vocabulary in the six languages she spoke fluently.


Some believe a military background may help prevent the worst effects of isolation (Thinkstock)

Such experiences may be easier to take if you belong to a military organization.

Keron Fletcher, a consultant psychiatrist who has helped debrief and treat hostages, says mock detention and interrogation exercises of the kind he himself underwent while serving with the Royal Air Force are a good preparation for the shock of capture.

“They teach you the basics of coping,” he says. “Also, you know your buddies will be busting a gut to get you back in one piece. I think the military are less likely to feel helpless or hopeless. Hopelessness and helplessness are horrible things to live with and they erode morale and coping ability.”

US senator John McCain is a good example of how a military mindset bestows psychological advantages.

His five-and-a-half years as a prisoner of war in Vietnam, during which he refused to yield to his interrogators, actually seemed to strengthen him.

Though note what he had to say about the two years he spent in isolation: “It’s an awful thing, solitary. It crushes your spirit and weakens your resistance more effectively than any other form of mistreatment… The onset of despair is immediate, and it is a formidable foe.”

Extreme reality

Psychologists who study how people cope with isolation have learnt much from solo explorers and mountaineers.

For many adventurers deprived of human company – albeit voluntarily – the landscape itself can serve as an effective surrogate, drawing them out of themselves into the beauty or grandeur of their surroundings.

Norwegian psychologist Gro Sandal at the University of Bergen in Norway, who has interviewed many adventurers about how they cope in extreme environments, says that transcending the reality of their situation in this way is a common coping mechanism. “It makes them feel safer. It makes them feel less alone.”

A similar psychological mechanism could explain why shipwrecked mariners marooned on islands have been known to anthropomorphize inanimate objects, in some cases creating a cabal of imaginary companions with whom to share the solitude.

It sounds like madness but is likely a foil against it.

Take the way sailor Ellen MacArthur nicknamed her trimaran “Mobi”, during her record-breaking solo circumnavigation of the globe in 2005. During the voyage she signed emails to her support team “love e and mobi”, and in her published account uses “we” rather than “I”.


Sailors have been known to combat the loneliness of the ocean by anthropomorphizing inanimate objects (Thinkstock)

There is no more poignant illustration of the power of solitude to sink one person while lifting up another than the stories of Bernard Moitessier and Donald Crowhurst, two of the competitors in the 1968 Sunday Times Golden Globe round-the-world yacht race.

The trophy, offered to the first sailor to complete a solo non-stop circumnavigation of the globe, was won in 313 days by Robin Knox-Johnston, the only one out of nine starters to finish.

He seemed to relish being alone with his boat, but not as much as Moitessier, an ascetic Frenchman who practiced yoga on deck and fed cheese to the shearwater birds that shadowed him.

Moitessier found the experience so fulfilling, and the idea of returning to civilization so distasteful, that he abandoned the race despite a good chance of victory and just kept on sailing, eventually landing in Tahiti after travelling more than halfway round the world again.

“I continue non-stop because I am happy at sea,” he declared, “and perhaps because I want to save my soul.”

Crowhurst, meanwhile, was in trouble from the start.

He left England ill-prepared and sent fake reports about his supposed progress through the southern seas while never actually leaving the Atlantic.

Drifting aimlessly for months off the coast of South America, he became increasingly depressed and lonely, eventually retreating to his cabin and consolidating his fantasies in a rambling 25,000-word philosophical treatise before jumping overboard.

His body was never found.

What message can we take from these stories of endurance and despair?

The obvious one is that we are, as a rule, considerably diminished when disengaged from others. Isolation may very often be the “sum total of wretchedness”, as the writer Thomas Carlyle put it.

However, a more upbeat assessment seems equally valid: it is possible to connect, to find solace beyond ourselves, even when we are alone.

It helps to be prepared, and to be mentally resilient.

But we shouldn’t underestimate the power of our imagination to knock over prison walls, penetrate icy caves or provide make-believe companions to walk with us.


For those who ARE alone

Satan likes to attack those who are alone.

There is no one there to defend them or fight with them.

The bible says

“One man can chase a thousand [Joshua 23:10] and two shall put ten thousand to flight” [Deuteronomy 32:29-31].

Most of the requests for prayer or help I get come from isolated people, who have no one to talk to, or pray for them.

If one is really alone in life, then one has to find outlets where they can still connect with the world.

Online friends

A local activity at a social hall , gym, or other location

Someone to talk to on the phone

A pet

Find a neighbor to associate with, or a coworker

One should also make time to connect with YHVH God.


Praise and Worship

Bible reading

Attending or watching a service.


No man is an island.

We were not created by God to be alone.

While solitude itself can be good, and some are called to the single life,

This does NOT mean we are to be so isolated that Satan uses us for target practice.

We want and need victory in our lives.

We have to join with others to fight with us.

That way we ALL win.


26 Responses to “Woe To Him That is Alone”

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  2. Yeah, loneliness and isolation are real problems today. A lot of people feel alone even when around others. Much of it is because of pride, which makes people want to have no accountability to others, and a fear of being vulnerable enough to be known by others.

    I know I’ve struggled with this; in fact, I believe many people do in some way. I get on facebook sometimes, and it’s sad to see that people are okay with online ‘friendships’. Things were never supposed to be this way.

    • arendale

      sometimes that is what hands out to us….

      we work for something better, but opposition comes and fights us every step of the way, and we end up with less than what we worked for

      online is a way to stay connected, even if it is not ideal

      my idealism died a long time ago.

      I still have faith in god, but not man

  3. Some people who are in these super max prisons, also are not eligible to receive mail and no real contact with the guards. Their food just shows up and that is about it. I’ve wondered if this wasn’t akin to “cruel & unusual punishment” which is supposedly banned in the U.S.

    Tom Hanks is in a movie where he is stranded on some remote island, the sole survivor from a crashed FedEx cargo plane – drew a face on a volley ball that washed ashore that he ended up having many conversations with.

    For me, I so cherish my time alone. The world has become so noisy and so fast spinning, and trying to grab our attention every which way. Solitude is a welcome place and time where I feel I can slow down, go within, and commune with our Lord.

    But, I don’t know how I would act if solitude was something forced on me. Solitude by choice is a bit different than solitude forced.

    • yes there is a big difference between forced solitude and chosen solitude.

      if it is forced on us, and we cannot get out, then that is where our coping skills and faith comes into play

      having each other helps too 🙂

  4. Yea loneliness is very, very hard. Being in closed in a small house is not good. Especially when you have a sick person with you that you love so much and just have to watch them suffer at times is almost impossible.

    I went out for a ride a couple days ago after 5 pm. It was soo strange to even be by myself driving to my sons house and my daughters. They were shocked when they seen me at their house for a visit.

    We had a doctors appointment today. And Praise God the Cardiologist said my wife has a good heart. So that has brought me more peace today and I rejoice in it to the Lord.

    Loneliness is hell. But God is Heaven and lives in me and that is how we make it. I would have fainted along time ago If I did not Pray when “I KNEW” I had to. Sometimes you got to get a release and the only release I have is Praying to the Lord and He always revives me. But not in a instant at many times. It comes the next day or 2 or 3 days after a serious trial of my faith.

    We have to pray in desperation’s Or it don’t seem to work. I tried everything in the last 6 years almost.

    Yea I’m a loner for sure but not by my will. I love people and when something goes very wrong. Your friends slowly disappear yet I do understand it. But God is my deliverer and my salvation. The Lord has changed me a lot. I give a lot more of myself and money to others. And I love people more and really appreciate everything the Lord has done for me when I look back I was blessed. When I was stupid He helped me. When I could not walk the walk no more HE put me on HIS Shoulders and carried me. I can forgive easier than before this trial of 6 years. When I thought maybe death would be better than life Yet HE lifted me up again. Yet its a battle period. My wife has to be cared for in most all things. I could send her to a rest home but I just cannot seem to do it. Im trusting God for more super natural power cause the Word says – You are healed already. Its the believing that makes you strive and seek HIS council.

    I thank God he gave me a hunger for the Word of God and gave me a gift of of playing the guitar and singing.
    How Great is our God sing to me How Great is our God.

    Praise God for you all. Even though I know most think me a fanatic or whatever. But I strive for the mastery when it comes to the Word. I have had a lot of time to study it. Maybe that is why this has happened. I’m believing I will be back in the ministry before I die.

    Bro. Thomas

    • beacon

      your wife is blessed to have you.

      your heart is so tender toward her, and your hard work will be rewarded in heaven someday

      may the lord continue to strengthen you

      and remember, you have friends here too

  5. My husband died 2 years ago. We were a fostering familly. After the funerals I found myself alone, in a house were we used to be 8 people leaving there. It has been very hard at first
    But the Lord really gave me peace, and I never feel alone. Jesus -Christ is whith me and my life is totally different today, I rejoice whith the Lord, even if sometimes it’s a bit hard, the Lord is my sheppard, Glory to Him

  6. https://www.facebook.com/Rick-Joyner-Exposed-323879987770575/

  7. they do not read bible there, occult

  8. today is Reformation Day
    Here I Stand by Martin Luther (German}
    Unless I am convinced by the testimony of the Holy Scriptures or by evident reason-for I can believe neither pope nor councils alone, as it is clear that they have erred repeatedly and contradicted themselves-I consider myself convicted by the testimony of Holy Scripture, which is my basis; my conscience is captive to the Word of God. Thus I cannot and will not recant, because acting against one’s conscience is neither safe nor sound. God help me. Amen.

    As a result of October 31, 1517, hundreds of millions of Christians all over the world have submitted to God’s word as their highest authority (Sola Scriptura) and his teaching that salvation is a gift given by God’s grace alone (Sola Gratia) through the instrument of faith alone (Sola Fide) in the death and resurrection of their one savior and mediator, Jesus Christ (Sola Christus), so that all glory would always redound to the Triune God alone (Sola Deo Gloria).

  9. 11~2~5998 (out of 6000) in this “Armageddon Apocalypse”.
    Yahshua Son of Yahweh Returns VERY SOON! Pray NOW to be SAVED and SEALED in THEM. Revelation 14:1 HalleluYah!
    Hebrew: “Praise ye Yah!”

    Woe to Him That is NOT SAVED! I am posting here because this came to our e-mail. Scripture says to give an answer for our faith. Those that gather into “groups” are more likely to be LOST! Lost souls (the tares) are gathered into bundles (to be burned) Matthew 13:30. The wheat (saints) are gathered into Yahweh’s barn. John the Immerser (Baptist) Yahshua’s cousin and a “loner” was praised by Him.


  10. This team has many members.

  11. http://www.openheaven.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=52251&PN=1

    what gay agenda have done to this country,
    we are going to destruction, IF WE DO NOT REPENT !


    check the news on judge Roy moore’s facebook (above link}

    feds rule to force high school girls to undress next to
    naked boys who think they are girls.

    see wht happen in military underreported by Pentagon
    15 times higher then other place.

  12. [audio src="http://www.secretplaceministries.us/downloads/podcast/blessed-is-the-one.mp3" /]

  13. http://livestream.com/accounts/10682374/events/4477228

  14. http://www.parablesblog.blogspot.com/2015/11/why-so-downcast-o-my-soul.html


    the great weapon for us is Praise and Worship God, through Praise and Worship God, it will destroy depression.

  15. http://www.parablesblog.blogspot.com/2015/11/the-testimony-introduction.html

  16. Bruce Allen teach a lot of passion, the key to walk with God, to step into the realm of His glory is passion,

    Passion not for the glory , passion for Jesus , passion not for miracle. Passion for Jesus , because in Him, there is fullness, in Him, every promise is yes and amen , in Him, you are healed, in Him you have life, in Him you have liberty, in Him, you have everything you need.

    You are not asking for manifestation, for if you have Jesus, there is all manifestation .,

    That is the key , STOP looking for “experience”, you start pursuit a person Jesus,

  17. if anyone have insight of zechariah 4 lampstand and 2 olive tree ,

    these 2 olive tress, are they related to book of Rev, 2 witness ?


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