Jezebel wife and mother
** the reverse can be true also, it can be a jezebel father and husband, so as one reads, consider the opposite going on, and it is the man doing the controlling, instead of the mother.
For the lips of a forbidden woman drip honey,
and her speech is smoother than oil,
but in the end she is bitter as wormwood,
sharp as a two-edged sword.
Her feet go down to death;
her steps follow the path to Sheol;
she does not ponder the path of life;
her ways wander, and she does not know it. Proverbs 5: 4-7
***Men who have married and fathered children with Jezebel (sociopathic) women face special challenges. They deserve all our love and support. The courts often do not recognize that a sociopathic woman is incapable of functioning as a mother. Fathers are left to helplessly watch as precious children suffer at the hands of their mother.
The courts would be wise to get smart and take heed because studies of adopted children reveal a terrible truth about female sociopaths. Female sociopaths carry stronger genes for the disorder than do males. A mother is more likely to pass this trait to children she has never met, than is a father.
Psychologists, and the court system, because they are fundamentally humanists, and not religious, do not see the demonic aspect of the Jezebel, and so label her as a sociopath, or as anti-social. Therefore, the success of counseling by an atheistic or agnostic therapist will have some, but limited, results. Therapy will also take a lot longer. Years longer.
The victim really needs prayer, deliverance, and to get away from the Jezebel, unless they are going to tackle the challenge of delivering the Jezebel spirit out of her to restore the family.
Controlling, irresponsible, dishonest, will lie without remorse
inability to love, and put others first – selfish
never wrong, so never sorry about anything
may either be the aggressive type, or the sneaky type
non-stop turmoil in the family, through multiple generations, and is a charming and frightening menace.
makes singularly vile false allegations, and calls the police
originally, may have become pregnant with or without marriage—then uses the child to sponge off of the father for as long as possible.
may emotionally damage the child, trying to turn him or her into a manipulative mini-me. In the most despicable cases, the children are exploited.
may allow a new partner to sexually abuse the child
may cause traumatic stress disorder in innocent family members
creates a sense of frustration and hopelessness in victims
Courts are unlikely to take the child away from the mother, unless she does something terrible, and it can be proven. That may not happen. Jezebels are skilled at going up to the legal limit but not crossing it. They know just when to stop so they can keep the support check coming.
uses the children to control the husband
husband will feel constantly drained in every way – emotionally, financially, mentally, physically, etc.
will make the husband or children feel like they are to blame for anything wrong that happens at home.
very critical, venomous
will lie to the children about the father
children can become withdrawn, or end up like mom when they grow up- this may seem opposite logic, but it will be the opposite sex child, rather than the same sex child. This is because the opposite sex child will innately desire the approval of the Jezebel parent, and will subconsciously try to mirror the parents’ behavior in order to get that approval. Or the child can go in the opposite direction, and become an “Ahab” See post about Ahab.
children can become alienated from the father, being influenced by the mother.
can end up making others support her, as if it is their eternal duty to her- parasitic.
I have heard this in one case- where the children were divided between the 2 parents. the mother took the healthy one, and left the father with the sick one, and did not offer to help with the sick one’s expenses.
she may file false police reports on husband to prevent him from seeing children
father will get dragged through the courts multiple times in a few years. Each case can involve hundreds of pages of documents that he has to answer, repeated submissions of ‘new’ evidence or complaints, and many days in court at a huge cost, sometimes forcing the husband to borrow money.
accuses spouse of not caring about child. changes the access arrangements at the last minute, and when husband is not available, or can’t get to changeover that quickly, she tells child that husband doesn’t want the child.
many petty actions to make life difficult
children can have frequent nightmares, and need frequent reassurance from father. After extended holiday contact with her mother, child can return very clingy, and sleeps in father’s bed for a couple of nights, until she/he settles down. Child is very easily frustrated, and is very hard on herself, since she has been made to feel guilty about just about anything.
child will eventually learn that the jezebel parent is lying, and will consider them cruel, mean, and neglectful. The child will learn not to trust the jezebel parent.
in case of a remarriage – the step mother jezebel may be viewed as the “wicked step mother” by the children. She will not care about them, but will interfere with the real biological mother’s rights or relationship with the children.
jezebel parent will cause relationship problems with the spouses’ parents.
Suggested Corrective actions
Document all negative activity, and get witnesses to back you up, esp for court situations..
if the father will provide the child with as much love and affection as he can, this will help him counteract the negative influence of the sociopathic, jezebel mother. And if the woman really starts to become dangerous, his documentation will help him save his child.
Explain to the child…..“Yes, dear, I know your mother doesn’t like me very much right now since the divorce. She is angry at me right now, and I understand that. Sometimes when people become angry at another person they say or do bad things. Anger is not an excuse to do bad things, but I do understand how she feels. I hope that she will resolve this anger and that she and I can be friends. I am your dad and I will always love you, even if I am angry at you, I will never quit loving you.” etc.
The father should also validate the child’s feelings on this by maybe saying, “I love you, and I think that sometimes when you talk to me on the telephone it upsets your mother. You do not have to choose between me and your mother. It is okay with me for you to love your mother even though we don’t agree on things. Just because she is mad at me doesn’t mean that I am angry with her or that I want you to quit loving her.”
Important for the child to know that they do NOT HAVE TO QUIT LOVING ONE PARENT in order to please the other one.
It is very important to support the child, and build up her self-esteem to counteract all the put-downs and criticisms received from the jezebel parent.
It is important to support the child’s relationship with the other parent because they do love them, despite the way they are treated.
In case of (your) broken promises…… reassure child that you will not deceive her, or break a promise, unless you explain to her why you had to break the promise, and that you will make it up later. Like if you have to break a promise to take her to the zoo, because your car needs repair.
If deliverance, rather than separation, is desired, read the following:
The Roots of Jezebel…. …. Click here for more
The Sneaky, Charming Jezebel… Click here for more
Identify and remove the Jezebel spirit.. Click here for more
Healing for Jezebel…. Click here for more
Testimony from someone with a Jezebel (sociopathic) mother
I wish I could find some books to read about how to heal from this horrible nightmare of growing-up.
I really don’t want to refer to her anymore as my mother. So for reasons of communicating this, I’m calling her my birth incubator. Sorry if this label seems cruel you just don’t know the hell I went through.
Since birth, she was neglectful per my Grandparents and Aunts and Uncle. when I became a toddler, she started becoming physically and mentally abusive (my relatives have harbored guilt feelings for not intervening).
During my growing-up years I don’t recall hearing of this behavior, and people normally didn’t interfere into other families business.
Plus sociopaths freak most people, because sociopaths don’t have a conscience. My therapist is educating me on how demented sociopaths are.
***note: therapists can only help a certain amount here. They do not understand this is a demonic spirit. They just consider the jezebel a mean person.
They view the world as one big game, revolving around themselves. People are viewed to a sociopath as pawns and victims.
I decided to write in this when I had read a message from a previous topic about a mother who has been deceitful, and lied much about her child’s father.
I grew-up with the feeling of looking in from the outside so to speak about my family. There were occasional negative remarks about her hating my father, and yet when my sisters would remark to her why does she make those types of statements to me and not to them, she would reply that she loves their dad, but hates mine.
She had many times put me in harms way.
There was Christmases when I was young that there wasn’t a gift under the tree for me, and yet there was much for the rest. She would pull me aside and make a comment that my dad didn’t give her money for me (I was a young child then).
She would never explain to me what she meant, and told me if I cried that I would be punished, and that if I told anyone what she said, then she would tell them I’m crazy.
I’m dealing now with a lot of awaking from suppressed memories of my childhood with her.
I’ve dealt with depression most of my life and not knowing why (there is loads of suppressed memories).
The worst of it all is that not only was I raped a couple of times when I was sixteen, but that she knew about it, and I believe she set me up all because of her hate for a man I don’t know.
This information I’m writing about is only a small percent of the hell I lived through with her.
I think now that she can’t deal with the fact that she was unfaithful to her husband while he was a sailor (Navy) out on duty, and that I must look a lot like my biological father, that instead of her behaving maturely about her human weakness, she has projected all this on me.
For years, I never discussed any of this, until my sisters apologized for taking part in the abusive games that the birth incubator had them participate in.
My Grandparents and Aunts and Uncle are apologizing, for not stopping it. This, and other, reasons have made me look closer into why, and how to deal with the emotions I had to suppress to survive.
A few years ago, a man contacted me on the telephone and told me he’s my biological father, and that he’s sorry for how I was treated, and unwarrantedly, he blames himself.
I’m her scape goat and I refuse to allow him to be hers as well. This woman needs to grow-up, and yet never will. I don’t have a relationship with this man, and I wish I could. He wouldn’t give me his name.
And when I had asked the birth incubator about my legal birth documents being sealed, she has told everyone that I’m crazy. And refuses to allow my dad who raised me take a DNA test to prove paternity.
There is no shame for her. I pray that God will reveal all the truth no matter how ugly it may be. I can just imagine how pathetic I must sound when this message is being read. However, I know I’m not the only one who has had the unfortunate contact with one of these sick types.
Interesting science: testimony from the husband of a Jezebel (serum testosterone levels !!):
***note: values ranging from the low 200s to over 1200 ng./dl. is considered normal for men, and from 15 to 70 ng./dl. is considered normal for women.
It’s not theory. We got the labs tests to prove it! Serum is much thicker than water.
From my experience I can tell you that the female sociopath I was conned by was tested and she had more testosterone than I! She complained to me that her level of 300 was, like everything else, MY fault!
For a time I required adjuctive testosterone therapy because my body was making none! And Maria claimed that my topical gel was responsible for her elevated levels of testosterone. [I took all necessary precautions and should her levels have gotten even higher, there’s no telling how aggressive she may have become! She never came in contact with the gel per the instructions on the packets.]
***stress has a known effect on hormone levels
Never mind that she was addicted to uppers & downers and she lied to our physician about taking drugs!
My T levels are now normal and my body makes it own. Still, it is nowhere as high as M’s were back then.
It is going on 2 years now and I am finally coming out it.
BTW, the sex wasn’t so good. At least not for me, but I am certain that it was for her.
Come to think of it, she complained about it lasting too long and being unnatural to go that long. No woman had ever previously complained to me about that!
But, seeing how she worked as a prostitute for a decade in the in the “ritzy area” of St. Louis as Her Own Mother put it, I guess anything over 5 minutes and/or beyond premature ejaculation was “abnormal” to Maria.
God, THANK YOU for taking her out of my life. The cost has been tremendous. At times, almost unbearable. But I am starting to see my way out of it.
Doctors response to ex-husband:
Perhaps the stress of living with a female sociopath actually reduced your testosterone level. I am very glad to hear you are seeing your way clear. That can often take a long time. I also thank God every day that I lived through this with the strength to recover. Those of us who have had this experience share a common bond.
Books to read:
“Small Sacrifices” by Ann Rule (a sociopathic mother)
“If You Really Loved Me” by Ann Rule (a sociopathic father)
See also the Jezebel series (note that there is more than one page):
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