Do you have an Ahab?
Ahab is the permissive spirit who allows Jezebel to go wild and out of control. He is the authority figure that she gets her initial authority from. He may seem masculine in some ways, but he is passive toward her. There are some good resources on the web about Ahab, so I am merely referencing them, rather than repeating the information.
http://www.tpranch.org/Ahab%20Spirit.htm
Basically, Ahab is a man who has no real male hormones….or refuses to act like a man, and assume responsibility. It almost seems like he was born missing a few body parts. He turns his head to what Jezebel does so he can somehow benefit from her pillaging of others. He is selfish, wimpy, and uncaring, and ignores the destruction. He looks to his Jezebel as his strength, and admires her. He may even think she is sexy, and will offer the souls up of others to stay near her. Maybe she is his wife, or his “lovely” colleague at work. This combination causes pain for others. She is a liar and a slanderer, and he personally does not care about anything she destroys.
Why do some men become Ahabs? They were not born that way! Ahab is a spirit also, and early childhood experiences come into line with this. A weak or missing male father figure, and an overbearing mother figure contribute to this. The man can be very intelligent, and social, but he will have neither the ethical character, nor the interest in stopping injustices. His lack of action produces a comfort zone, and he benefits from the Jezebels’ destructive behavior. He will defer responsibility and authority to the Jezebel, who takes over. The Jezebel section explores the roots of this deviancy, which can also influence the development of the Ahab, as well as the Jezebel.
To really remove Jezebel, you have to remove Ahab first. To insure Ahab cannot return, he has to be replaced with a Jehu, or righteous man of legitimate authority, willing to act. If you do not have this authority, then remove yourself from this duo.
Avoid Ahabs – Watch and be vigilant in new environments for Ahabs. If you find a man in authority like this, there will most likely be a Jezebel around the corner. In social groups, in job interviews, in churches, take notice if you encounter weak passive men. Take this into consideration before becoming involved with that environment. Save your self from much grief.
In the church, Ahab and Jezebel represent the destruction of the individual family, and church family. The church is to be the bride of Christ and the head is her bridegroom, Jesus Christ. Ahab destroys the bridegroom priestly role and Jezebel pollutes the women with rebellion. All becomes flesh. Spiritual purity is gone, and replaced with ego-centric behavior and motives. Are there too many families breaking up in your church? Look for clues like this.
Click here to read more about Jezebel.




Manipulation, deception, cowardice, laziness, selfishness etc are sins that each individual has to address. Men and women each have to deny ourselves, take up our cross and follow Christ. When we don’t do that we have no one to blame for our bondage to sin. Timothy was taught the scriptures by his mother and grandmother, no mention of any involvement of his father, so there is hope for children who’s parents are still in bondage to these sins.
You understnd the gist of Ahab. It is a major problem in the USA today, and we are exporting it to other nations. It has caused the degeneration of all moral prinicples under the guise of tolerance. Father YHWH is very loving but HE is NOT tolerant of sin.
Hi Rusty,
Thank you for your comment. I hope more men see this, and become the Jehus (righteous men) they need to be to reverse this damage.
marianne
I’ve believed for many years, that this spirit is actually at the root of most of what is wrong in the Church, in families, and in society. It is most frustrating to be in a subordinate position to one of these, be it marriage, a job, or in a ministry setting. You keep hoping they’ll step up to the plate, but they rarely ever do, leaving all open for attack from without and within. And when they do, they end up back-peddling to become more comfortable and avoid conflict. It takes lots of prayer, moral support, and submission to get over this.
Hi Cindy,
I totally agree. Men not being real men has destroyed many families. Victims need to get support from others, have them confront the Ahab, have him seek the root of his problems, and pray together. It will be a struggle.
blessings
marianne
I think my husband has an Ahab spirit and the Jezebel is his ex-wife. I prayed and fasted for 3 days a week every week for almost 10 yrs. The Lord shaowed me in a dream the man I was to marry and 1year later I met my husband.He was the man in my dream. Now there are issues and I don’t know what todo or how to proceed. He seems attracted to these kind of women. What can I do? Does anyone know/
dear s
I have some questions and I would have to know more.
You are probably right, if they match the descriptions. Does your husband want to change? Is he faithful to you? If he is willing to change, he is the key the solution.
He is a passive man, and so is attracted to women he feels has the energy he lacks. He first has to find out why he feels so weak, and allows women to rule.
In the meantime, try to provide the energy between the two of you, and encourage him to search inside himself. Why is he this way? Was his mother like this? He needs to find the Jehu inside – the masculine leader, positively dominant side of himself.
write back and let me know. Just respond to the email.
blessings
marianne
It’s been awhile since you posted this but when I read it, I understood your dilemma. I married a Ahab in obedience to God as well and at the end of a harrowing 10 years with the abusive lug, he left me with no money & lots of bruises. That was 16 years ago and I am still healing so deep the betrayals and hurt went..I wished I had married him and wished too I had left him when it was obvious he was choosing to not even try to change with God’s help.
Remember this: God gives opportunity to men & women in marriage…there are times it is necessary to divorce biblically.
It sounds like he has soul ties not severed with the ex wife…all the prayers in the world is useless unless HE wants to truly be God’s man.
In my opinion, he sounds like he likes having two women in his life and has no intention to dissolve either one. I would suggest to you that unless you like living in mistrust and suspicion and sadness your whole life, you will seriously and prayerfully consider separating from him & if that does not improve things, leave him permanently. God bless, dear.
the best advice about marrying an ahab is not to do it. it would never be God’s will to marry someone who had already been married before, and divorced. there are always ties to the ex
Mmmm, I disagree with this. Never? If a spouse divorces say for infidelity or abuse, are they not free to love and marry again?
nicole
they are free to marry again . Anyone who commits adultery and abuse is not a believer, and a believer is not required or expected to be married to someone like that to begin with.
Wow I am glad I came here, Very focused with spiritual discernment.
hi Pilgrim,
Thanks for stopping by. I will check out your website also.
Thank you Marianne. These articles have given me understanding of my unsaved husband’s 7yr relationship with an employee who has him bewitched. You could be describing them to a T. This material is not taught in my church and warfaring for our marriage is one of the toughest things I’ve ever done as it brings unbelievable spiritual opposition.I’ve personally experienced hostile Jezebel’s intimidation and the reality of Elijah’s irrational fear. It is devastating to watch how she has deceived and emasculated my man through his own passivity in being an Ahab. I believe that no weapon formed against me will prosper and that my husband is sanctified so will continue trusting God for breakthrough and for his salvation. Please pray for us.
hi Jen,
I added you to the prayer list. You need to find a way to help your husband re-discover his true masculine side, and push her away. Get support from friends. Divide and conquer is key to success. You have to confront each separately. Get your girlfriends together and go after the jezebel. Confront her, and tell her what she is. Find her weak point, and use it.
Hi, I wrote in a few months ago regarding this subject and we exchanged emails. I want to thank you for giving me the courage to do what was necessary. There came a situation where his children with his ex wife came to my house and disrupted my entire household and he said nothing. In fact my daughter said he made the comment “women” when I came to him about his children’s lack of respect and his lack of a response. Well the ex-wife I told you months ago would use the children to manipulate him and he would go along with what she said. Well you told me to tell him that his kids cannot come over here and I let him know that. It is the best advice I have gotten this year and I thank you and the Lord so much. Thank you for your obedience to the truth of God’s word and call on your life.
hi sharilyn,
You are most certainly welcome. It is a blessing to see people get free from Satan’s plans, and have the victory in their lives that they deserve.
Marianne,
If the Jezebel is a male and is the pastor, who would or could be the Jehu. He is single…
Marianne, I mistyped…
The question is if the Jezebel is a male and is the pastor, who would or could be the Ahab. He is unmarried and in a mess of sexual sin.
hi warrior
The ahab would be a female family member, someone close to him who has permitted him to be this way…mother, aunt, grandmother…
unless he is an aggressive homosexual..then it would be his gay partner.
a Jehu for him would be someone who outranks him in the church…..a bishop, overseer, central office……etc.
I believe my father has the spirit of Ahab. He abandoned my mother while she was pregnant with me. He has been in relationships with two other women since then. He is still with the second one now and she controls everything about his life.
It has been revealed to me and my mother by a great man on God, a prophetic pastor that she is using withcraft to control him. She is also using the withcraft to frustrate everything I do in my life.
I also have a half sister who is older that me and she is disabled. She is not the daughter of his current wife. He does not take care for her or care about her well being. He also does not support me and has left my mon alone to raise me by herself.
I forgot to mention that he wanted my mom to commit an abortion when he found out she was pregnant. So basically God gave him my half sister first and he rejected and abandoned her/her mother because of her physical condition. He rejected me before I was even born because he wanted a male child. God is not mocked because he has been with his current wife for many years and she has not been able to have a child to date. They just recently adopted 2 children and the prophetic pasotr told us that she is doing everything with witchcraft to make sure that I do not become more successful that her children. In all things I trust God because my life is his completely and her plans will not work.
My father was scared because she had to children. What she does not know is that I would never fight over whatever money or property he leaves behind. That is not for me to fight for.
I am just working on forgivness of my father because I know that is what God wants me to do. It is very very very hard because I don’t like or trust him. How do you forgive when you want to but your heart has not forgiven the person. If I tell him I forgive him then I would be lying to him and myself. Like I wrote above he is always sorry but he never does anything different. I don’t want God to punish me for not forgiving him.
Dear Godsway,
I perfectly understand what you and your mom have been through. I have also been a single mom for 30 years, and have a similar story. It looks like your mom did a good job raising you. You have turned out fine.
Maybe this post will help.
http://heavenawaits.wordpress.com/forgiveness-is-conditional/
We should stick with God’s standards for forgiveness. If we just forgive people who are not sorry, it is like giving them permission to do what they want.
Forgiveness should be in our hearts, and ready to share….once the repentance is evident…..but we also do not want to send the message that repentance is not required for salvation and deliverance.
Your father is a weak man, and he has willingly gotten himself into this, and hurt you.
Just pray that God sends someone along into his path, and makes him wake up to what he is, what he has done, and pricks his heart enough to make him repent. There is really no way he can make up to you for all he has done wrong to you and your sister.
Just remember, he is only one man. There are real men in this world who would love to protect you, and care for you. Focus your energy now on men who are more worthy of you.
Marianne,
I continue to receive and read your blog. We’ve communicated off line as well. As I read some of the posts, I wanted to clarify something and get your input. Jezebel is a spirit, principality, not a person, so isn’t it safe to say that the Ahab and the weakness(es) in a person will create an entry (portal) for this spirit? When I first started to study this, I kept looking at Jezebel as a person and Ahab as a person… It’s all spiritual and the story in the Bible is symbolic… not literal with regard to today’s application. Also, isn’t the spirit of Jezebel the result of weakness, but the true root of the demonic inspiration is Baal and Astheroth… the gods who seek worship? So Jezebel is the spirit that is leashed into the “church” in an effort to get believers to worship her gods… Any clarity you might offer will be appreciated.
Dear warrior
Jezebel and Ahab were real people, and the spirits were just named after them, because they had those behaviors.
It makes it easier to discuss the spiritual problems if you have a name for them.
These two people did serve the false gods of Baal and Astheroth.
I just read this article and will be reading more on the Ahab spirit later today. The tolerance and cowardice of Ahab covers males in our society like blankets (at least in America where I live). Masculine weakness toward sexuality is seen as natural (and some males boast about how much they love women– their weakness in lust a badge of ‘true masculinity’ and worth to them), but this very weakness aids Ahab and abets Jezebel.
I am in the midst of ‘an Ahab and Jezebel disaster’right now (then throw in several more Ahabs, Jezebels, and Eunuchs of Jezebel– all in Jezebel’s network). Most people have told me to ‘make a run for it’, but when I asked God whether to run or stay and war, He said to instead hold my peace (don’t react or respond to [the spirits in Jezebel's network]) and allow Him to work in the life of ‘the main Jezebel’ (and maybe the lives of the others). I have to admit that as the depths of Jezebel’s heart and activities are revealed, and as I learn more about how Ahab, Jezebel, and Jezebel’s Eunuchs work together, the situation looks more and more like a ‘make a run for it’ situation.
There are many reasons that His reasoning doesn’t at all seem reasonable. Some are that 1.> I have some weaknesses and wounds yet unhealed that Jezebel can definitely use against me; 2.> I am outnumbered about fifty to one (at least right now; there may be others not faithful to Jezebel and Ahab I don’t yet know of in this church); 3.> you’re normally supposed to vanish from the presence of those who are in willful rebellion and sin; 4.> the main Jezebel is not only my pastor and spiritual head/covering here but is also my counselor (I mean, how much can you divulge to a person who is supposed to be helping you when Jezebel is writing it all down to use it against you); etc. Therefore, I can’t tomorrow lean on the understanding I received today about how to proceed in all this.
Also, I read somewhere (maybe this site) that Jezebel usually first tries to use sexuality to destroy men or men in authority, then she uses slander (or something worse; I don’t recall what). Well, it’s nice to know I am in the first stage already. My pastor, who I met with today, has definitely been ‘issuing forth’ lust and sexual seduction toward me. She isn’t often overt with it, but she sure gets it across. It happened again today when I went to their home to talk, and she actually tried to put her Ahab husband under (to sleep) in order to give me a ride home by herself. When she came out her room, I asked for her husband instead; she said he was asleep (meaning he wasn’t available); then he came out their room and said he would drive me home himself (he was falling asleep, because she was trying to put him to sleep in order to be alone with me and try to shoot me full of lust). Talking to the pastor today, I was more able to see the unrepentant deception and seduction she is presently operating in. Again, anyone with half a brain would tell me to kick off my shoes and run like the wind away from this situation. However, I don’t believe I should run; I DO acknowledge that I need much prayer covering and ask for prayer for protection from deception, pride, etc. and for God’s Wisdom and Grace.
ValleyAnt
I would suggest not being alone with these people, especially at their house. Do not give place to the enemy. Stay in a group situation, for the sake of your own reputation. You cannot accomplish much if that is gone.
I agree. Though most people (everyone, really, at this point) in this church are ‘on Jezebel’s side’, it’s still better to be with more than one person at a time rather than [especially Jezebel alone].
There has been a lot of this on both side’s of my children’s family. Thank’s for the info because I would have never guessed this. I knew SOMETHING was wrong but didn’t have what I needed to understand. Pray for my children and me. We need God’s intervention.
hi peggy.
I put you on my prayer list. Take care, put it all in God’s hands.
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Deborrah
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Hello Marianne,
Thank you for posting such useful resources for God’s people to be informed and empowered.
The man who the Lord revealed (and confirmed) will be my husband (as well as his father and brothers) is currently under the influence of Ahab. His mother, an ordained minister and prophet, is under the influence of Jezebel. The family structure is very cultic- with a mandate that everyone stay close and thrives on false righteousness and religiosity.
The Lord warned me about a dragon before I met this man and has since reassured me that He intends for the whole family to be delivered, starting with the man that will be my husband. For the time being we are not in contact. The Lord instructed me to refrain from contact until complete deliverance has taken place and I trust He will reveal all things in His perfect time. I’m grateful for the insight and foresight of the Holy Spirit and I’m only sharing in hopes that I can recruit others to be in agreement with me for the deliverance of a well-meaning, but very deceived family.
Thanks again and Many Blessings!
hi El
I certainly agree with the advice you were given. I pray you stay safe and separate until complete deliverance for everyone is accomplished.
So very glad I found this article. I work for an Ahab- type who has a Jezebel for a secretary. She puts on this fake “southern belle” act and acts like she is very concerned and caring to your face but will lie and slander you to no end behind your back. He acts like she does no wrong despite evidence to the contrary. She pits employees against each other and we have all caught on to her behavior except for him.
As far as he goes, on one hand he appears to be very generous and caring. He is very generous monetarily to his employees and he is respectful to what is going on in our personal lives. For example, if we are ill or are having issues with family, he will not hesitate to give us time off to take care of things. He lends money to needy employees if they are in a financial bind. He and his father, who are very well-off, well-known businessmen both have a reputation for giving you the shirt-off-their-back. The down side of this is that many of his employees take advantage of him and his secretary runs amok and tries to run the show. Being a supervisor, this has called untold hours of extra work of work for us. Although a Christian, he has very poor spiritual discernment which has resulted in many instances of employees being hired who have turned out to be cons or criminals causing many of our business clients to lose trust & respect for the company. Even when we(the other employees who have discernment) see the truth about people or situations and try to warn him, he thinks we are being judgemntal and will not listen to us and every single time this has happened, we have payed dearly.
His secretary lies, slanders, and pits employees against each other. I think she really gets off on seeing the supervisors battle each other out like roosters in a cock fight. Thank goodness we have all caught on so we now know what to expect and if anything is said against or about each other we go to the other to get the real story. The problem is the new employees don’t know that right at first and she immediately tries to go in and manipulate their perceptions of us employees who have been their for awhile, who she does not like because we see through her and have caught on to her act. For example, we hired a new supervisor who I have worked with and get along very well with. This new person went back to the office and told them how much she liked workng with me, how kind I was to her and the other employees, and that I did excellent work. Well a few days later, our lovely secretary goes to another senior supervisor and tells them that our new supervisor told her in private that I had mental issues, that my elevator didn’t go all the way to the top, and that she did not want to work with me. I kindly confronted new girl who became very angry and upset. She went to my boss in tears and told him she did not know why secretary would say that because she loved working with me. He later called me and told me that he thought the senior supervisor was the one that said it and was trying to start trouble. That supervisor came to me and said that the secretary came to her personally at the office and told her that. She also said she knew that it was a bald-faced lie. We confronted him about it and he denies that the secretary would ever do such a thing and said that she is one of the kindest, sweetest people he knows who would be incapable of doing something like that. He did go to her and ask her if she said that and she replied in this sweet, soft voice “Now why would I do that? That is so immature!”
She has done this many, many times and each time he refuses to see the truth. He blames everyone else for being negative and judgemental. He does not see the differences between prudent discernment and judging someone. We do not know what to do and are at our wits end!!! We have started to keep a detailed journal of what she is doing. He seems to want to believe the best about everyone because it is the Christian thing to do and will not believe us no matter what facts are staring him in the face and who has witnessed it. We all used to think he was just very naive but we are starting to wonder if he does know what is going on. Personally, even despite his apparent kindness and generosity, I think it is very big character defect and moral failing on his part.
You’ve heard the saying about how evil flourishes when good people do nothing. He seems to be one of those “good people who does nothing” and we are starting to despise him for it despite his “good-guy” persona.
hi stacey
You are on the right track. Have EVERYONE keep documented records with date, time and action on her. When you get a good list together, go as a group to the boss.
I had the same situation. I finally frustrated her so badly she quit and moved to another department.
Unfortunately, it is a family owned business with no other departments. He will not set up a heirarchy despite the fact that the business client base has grown so much to justify it. Right now, we have about 150 clients with 3 supervisors. Some of us are working up to 24 hrs straight and some have even had to sleep in their cars because their is very little time for them between shifts to go home. Sometimes we don’t have a chance to even take a bath. Most of this bull is due to her interferance. She claims that the business doesn’t have enough money to hire new employees to train. We could have 500 clients and they would still try to run it with the same 3 supervisors. The secretary and the boss, though not related, are both filthy rich. Our boss is building a new 3 story home but supposedly does not have enough to hire for his business.
I ran into a former employee a few hours ago and she told me to tell the secretary hi and that she missed her. She said to me, “Miss sue is the sweetest person I’ve ever met!” I didn’t say anything but this is just an example of this woman’s Jekyll & Hyde nature. So, other than quitting, we really have no other recourse. “Sue” has been with them for years. Usually, the pattern is that the supervisors eventually all quit because of her but he doesn’t see it-some to the point of mental breakdown because of her bullying. He always says the same thing after an employee gets fed up and quits. It usually goes like this “I don’t know why so-and-so just walked out like that. I tried to help them out. They told me they were leaving ’cause they couldn’t take her crap anymore. I don’t know why they would say that about her. She’s the kindest, sweetest person I know. I guess people just dont wanna work anymore.” You would think if that pattern was continously happening year after year he would step back and realize there was a problem but he doesn’t want to. I don’t understand it.
I’m sorry to rant but we are just so at the end of our rope. I hate to quit but I might have to. I just don’t understand how a boss can choose to remain so willfully ignorant of reality. I know my attitude is probably not very Christ-like right now but we are so angry and losing respect for him.
stacey
maybe you can market your skills elsewhere? Can you find some job that is better? There is only so much anyone can take. The boss is an idiot. he is not going to change.
Marianne,
Very good and accurate info on all pages I have read. However, things are much deeper and more profound than you realize regarding these unclean spirits. Your information is perfect for a collaboration with our site which is building a private global television broadcast network. We will be using both the web and TV and you and your content would be ideal. Our only interest is absolute truth. The kind you will never find in religious establishments like churches. First things first, have the proper foundation in place and use the proper names. Then you will know true power like you have never experienced. The LYYHT is shining.
hello Mikha ‘el
The posts I have written are from personal experience, so I know first hand how nasty and deep the evil is.
Maybe we could talk more about a collaboration since the time is short. We are almost out of time, so I hope your TV network is about ready to go. We may only have months or days left from what I see.
Motto for the last days comes from the psalms: trust God, not man.
Dear Marianne
I last wrote well over a year and a half ago concerning my daughter-in-law (jez) and son (ahab). After what seems like many steps backward and a few forward, we may be a a new starting point. I have been praying the prayers provided on your site and also prayers for breaking generational curses and WAITING…lots of waiting. We’ve had little communication as I refused to allow her to be in the middle of whatever conversation I tried to have with him. My words always got twisted out of recognition and she has always been able to inflame whatever hurts or injustiices he perceives. Which is how he and I got so far apart to begin with. She wrote to me, yet again, but this time seemed to be genuinely concerned about my son’s state of mind after calling me on xmas eve. I thought we had a nice light conversation but as it turned out he was very hurt. Last year, I made it clear that my husband and I don’t do xmas at all but early in Dec. during Channuka we sent a large (for us) check to HIM to do with whatever he wanted (self, family, presents, bitlls,etc). She texted a thank you but my son didn’t acknowledge it at all and months later actually berated me for not sending individual gifts! So this year, I didn’t send anything. I didn’t even send a Channuka card because I was afraid she would see that as a slap in her face. She’s ridiculed me publicly on FB for my beliefs, calling me a cultist and religeous fruitcake. So anyway, in the course of trying to clear up the mess on both sides, she wrote again and I spoke again to him. This time he and I agreed to put more effort in to resolving the confllicts and she actually seemed genuine in her apology for purposefully hurting me, which destroyed my trust. Marianne, as I extend my hand to her, with the awareness of what drives her behavior, and his, how can I protect myself yet be who I am called to be. I want a good relationship with my son and opening the door back up to her seems the only way I can have influence for the truth of the Word. Is there something I should do specifically? I know YHWH has heard my cry and knows the desire of my heart but I also know what I’m dealing with now. Any suggestions or prayers will be greatly appreciated. Thank you and Shalom!
hi christine
Understand that jezebels do not give in…so any gesture you make would be interpreted as you admiting you are wrong and she is right.
there is no compromise with them.
you have to oppose any negative behavior, and then state why
you also have to tell the same explanation to your son.
your son also needs to understand why he is tolerating such negative behavior out of his wife. you are not like that, so where did he pick up these lower standards?
your son has to learn to stand up to her and act more like a man as well. he expects you to take abuse, so he can be comfortable. he needs to be told that this will not happen.
she needs to be put on a leash until she starts acting like a lady, and like she is part of the family, and not an enemy. you have done nothing to her and will not take this kind of abuse.
if she does not hear the word “no” out of her husband, then someone else need to say it to her.
it looks like you have been elected.
your husband , or another male authority figure he will respect, needs to have a talk with your son and teach him to show respect to his mother, and to assert the male authority on his own household. instead of letting this woman run loose over everyone., which makes him look like a wimp.
@Christine
Marienne is right. Stand firm and do not give in to the pressure from your son and his wife to do anything you know you shouldn’t. Don’t participate in ANYTHING that is pagan and offensive to Elohim. Not even in the slightest. Birthdays included. The devil wants you to doubt and question what you know is right in your heart of hearts so he can accuse you before the most high. It is a mind game. The robbery begins there. With firmness, boldness and authority you will be heard and respected, even by the wicked. The devil will mock and ridicule you only when he senses fear, uncertainty and weakness. He is a predator of opportunity and compared to a lion in scripture for a reason. Remember, we wrestle not against flesh and blood so do not look at what you’re dealing with as just your son and his wife. These are incredibly powerful demonic forces that ultimately fear and respect those who stand firm in Yahushua and look wickedness in the eye.
BTW, what is your daughter-in-law’s birthday? She sounds like a Venus. I’m guessing Libra but need more personality details so I can know exactly what we are dealing with. The zodiac, used the right way, is very much a part of being a Believer despite what the “church” has told you. The world is full of sitting ducks in the devil’s crosshairs because of lack of knowledge. The LYYHT is shining. Shalom aleichem.
Thank you Marianne for your quick response, and also for your input Mikha’el. So far I have made it clear that I will not allow her to speak for him, which is partly why we have spoken so little in 2 years. Her ugliness is and always has been in the form of writing. She will attempt to overwhelm whoever she is after with many, many words, and well written, I might add. She definitely is not stupid or illiterate. I believe I have made clear to my son that I will not tolerate any ugliness, nor twisting my words. If and when I agree to have a lunch or coffee with her and she has ANY problems with ANYTHING I say, she is to make sure, there and then of my meaning so as to avoid my words coming back to me thru my son, twisted and out of context. What is very hard to deal with is he himself doesn’t seem to be able to remember things clearly and in the right order….he’s fuzzy on so much stuff. I think she is very afraid that if he spends one on one time with me, he’ll regain a clear mind and she’ll lose some of her control. I promised my son I would make an effort to extend my hand. I just don’t want to lose it in the process. My lifestyle is now very, very different from theirs as they don’t understand why I’ve chosen to live a Torah observant life and what that actually looks like. It blows my family away to not call myself a Christian anymore and the first thing they say is “Don’t you believe in Jesus?” They have no concept of what it means to live a faith life that is Torah based with my Messiah filling every minute of every day. Marianne, you asked how did my son get the way he is….partly generational curses, sexual molestation from his bio father, and I am a strong dominant personality. Actually I been called bossy (but I prefer “leader” lol) I used to be a shy girl back in the day but I’m old now and confident in who I am, with what I’ve lived thru. I know who I am in Messiah and won’t back down for anyone. My FB looks like a train station…people come and if they don’t like what I teach and stand up for they either hide me, hide my posts or drop me. You said my prayers were all my son had to help him and I believe that those prayers were heard. My Elohim can do anything and He is more than enough to overcome this Jezabel/Ahab combo. Thank you so much for your support. I will keep you posted from time to time on how things go from here.
Hello, I was wondeering something about the Ahab spirit I met my husband in a church that was full of Jezebels mainly the overseer,and her family I had just been born again and knew nothing of different demonic spirits,my husband and I were immediately attracted to one another, however the family of the pastor her daughter,son-in-law,grandchildren were against us being married and tried everything to prevent us from getting married, my husband lived with this familyand was the one who made me aware that jezebel was in the house at the time when they couldn’t convince him to call off the engagement they resorted to belittling him and his musical gift (he plays the piano and was minister of music) when that didn’t work they kicked him out using an excuse that he left something out of place, anyway I didn’t notice that my husband was easily controlled by the overseer until after we were married (come to think about it she was controlling from the beginning I just ignored it for ex: the original date we set to get married she told him that GOD didn’t show her that day so he said for us to change it saying GOD confirms through the overseer first, I came up with a different date and made him aware that this is our wedding and that unless GOD told one of us to change the date I wasn’t postponing again)
I started realizing that my husband hung onto the overseer every word and she was always right this in turn would result in my husband and I arguing eventually my husband began to see that the overseer was controlling and that he had been the Ahab of that family and in the church we eventually left the church, fasted, and prayed that the Ahab spirit and ungodly soul ties to this church and family be broken getting rid of everything they gave to my husband in the process, and said we are never to return to their church or have any contact with them(this was over two years ago)but then my husband started back talking to his mother who from his own mouth again was very controlling of his father, she cheated,lied,manipulated,belittled him(his father) as well as him I tried everything I could to get my husband to not completely shut the door on his mother (as I felt that if something was to happen to her he would regret cutting all ties to her) but I did suggest that he stop communicating with her so much and look at the life she lived and the example she left for him and quit following her advice which was to leave me because I am 7yrs older than him yet she had a child by someone that was the same age of my husband eventually he would tell me he was and I would always find out he was lying. Fast forward today my husband and I have seperated and he is currently living back with the family he lived with prior to our getting engaged the reason for our seperation is because he wanted us to return to their church I reminded him about what he said and the process we went through to be delivered from the ungodly soul tie to them and that when GOD delivers us from one thing HE won’t send us back to it, my husband said I was wrong, eventuallyI went to the church with him but was able to see that they were still controlling, my husband rejected me,told me I was the one being controlling, that he was tired of listening to me , that I am his hinderence and that he wasn’t leaving, i then warned him that he was developing another soultie to them and that it was worser then the first time, he denied it went along with their church and we seperated I told him I cannot willingly follow him as he follows himself and man, because GOD isn’t in this his mother told him that he made the best decision to go ahead and attend the church and accused me of being tired of serving Jesus Christ and of being married, both is a lie from the pit of hell but my husband believed it.
Now as I look over the 2.5 years we have been married I can see that I have in some way become like a Jezebel I expected so much from my husband to Love,protect,provide,comfort,etc, and when he couldn’t or didn’t do it I snapped in an unpretty way the thing is he always came back when I realized this error of mine which was last month I repented daily, did deliverence daily,fasted, prayed and apolgized to my husband numerous times now he is telling me he wants me in his life but only if I return to his church and I still can’t do that, I am praying daily and believe strongly that my husband is where GOD didn’t lead him and I am praying for his release as he sees me as the enemy I want nothing more then to submit to him, and would love for him to lead us, but I know GOD doesn’t change so I am just continuing to pray recently we talked and he told me that they were telling him to let go of the marriage my response was why would they tell him to let go of our marriage when GOD hates divorces, I even at onetime confronted this family and asked them why would they not intervene to counsel us when they seen us seperating(it happened at their church) and was accused of being controlling, manipulating, deceitful,and was told GOD in not so many words that GOD sent my husband back to them to be their musician even at the expense of our marriage this doesn’t sound like it was of GOD but contrary to GODS word eventually I left the situation alone “vengeance is mine says The Lord” sorry to go on so long I did try to get my husband to go to counseling and he refused because I didn’t want them but as I said they seen the seperation and did nothing so to me they can’t be trusted but he trusts them more then he trust me , now a brief fyi about me, as a child I was molested, was raised by a single parent who always said she don’t need a man because she is independent my father was an off again on again alcholic and was barely part of my life I was the one made fun of by schoolmates and siblings by the age of 26 I was a mother to 4 and seperated from their father who after 8yrs of dating got married and within 2.5 years we were seperated he was controlling I dressed how he wanted did my hair how he wanted stayed home while he hungout quit jobs because it was what he wanted me to do, I lost myself in the relationship because I thought I was just being a od girlfriend/e by giving in every demand finally I realized that I was never in love with him but thought I was because we had kids together I confused sex for love after seperating I became promiscuous as though I missed out on something being with one guy so long I realized how foolish this was and stopped sleeping around altogether I then as I said became born again, received Christ as Lord met my husband got married and can honestly say that I have no attachment to my ex husband(I seen him this past thanksgiving and had no form of chemistry) I told my husband that if I had known the truth of not remarrying I would have never married him, because he is now considered an adulterator but no one told us what the overseer told me was that all I had todo was pray for releasement from my ex husband and that because I wash saved GOD didn’t honor that marriage anyway so I did just that but after I got married I realized the truth and because mainly because they were all on their 2nd,3rd or 4th marriage they couldn’t say that was the reason without looking like hypocrites, together we repented to GOD and received HIS forgiveness…
Based on what I have written is it poss ible that I already had the jezebel spirit lying hidden within me but didn’t surface until I met my Ahab and can a man with an Ahab spirit open the door for jezebel also if my husband and I reunite will I become jezebel again even if its a little? I am asking GOD to give my husband a spirit to lead and take his rightful place and what GOD requires of men to be Loving yet take his authority and be the head of this marriage and our family I learned to ask for a jehu or a true spiritual leader… Thank you for reading this and for your advice GOD Bless
hi Acacia
You certainly have a painful history.
Jezebels need to have power and control. This is either due to pride, selfishness, or injury (like abuse) where a lack of power and control has been experienced.
The jezebels that you describe in the church and your husbands’ family seem to be due to chosen sin, not injury, because of the well developed damage they have created. they are all in adultery and you need to keep your distance .
Someone in injury is always trying to get past it.
Your husband is an Ahab, and will follow the strongest, most dominant female. this is due to his relationship with his mother, not you. he was already that way before he met you.
his mother sees you as competition in the control of her son, so she is rejecting you.
It is possible that the neglect and lack of control as a child that you experienced created some injury where a jezebel spirit could possibly enter and lay dormant. But that does not make you one.
right now, you are outnumbered by highly dominant jezebels, who are going to burn for their behavior.
BTW, it is typical of jezebels to falsely accuse their victims of being jezebels, this is to deflect attention off their own guilt and behavior.
many times, confrontation works, if you are strong spiritually, but you are not there yet, being injured yourself, and they can sense that.
best to communicate with him only, from a distance, and tell him you are praying for him .
right now, you need to re-collect your self respect and focus on nurturing your kids.
get stronger spiritually by prayer, and being alone with God.
you also cannot take back this ahab in the shape he is in, so you will have to be patient, as it will not be an immediate process.
he will need a disaster in his life to wake him up.
and you do not need to be affected by this disaster, since you need to protect yourself and the kids.
know that God loves you and will do what is best.
so for now, pray for the sinners in your family and his, and put it all in His hands,…then wait……
Hi Marianne….An update…..My DIL entered her youngest daughter in a local pagent and called to ask my help in acceessorizing her, to get her ready. She knows I sew and enjoy doing “girly” stuff so as my first effort at establishing a point to communicate and have a better relationship with my son, I agreed to help. I spent time and money preparing the things for her outfit and all turned out well. Then I called this week to see how the next pagent was shaping up and to offer good luck. That.s when she told me her oldest (17) is back in the hospital for severe depression, suicide and writings that were violent in nature. This family is so sick that the children are paying a high price. My granddaughter hates to go there and cries when it’s time to go there. She calls her mama everyday to come and get her
……..Please add the kids to your prayers. This situation breaks my heart and of course I wish my son would wake up. He acts like only she has the brains to figure things out and turns to her for advice on everything. It makes me ill. About 6 months ago my first DIL miscarried, which was horribily devastating and the e mail she received from Jez was absolutely evil, blaming her and saying she deserved it. It’s so hard to be on friendly terms with someone who can be so hurtful to another mother but I want that door to my son open. I have yet to have my son to myself for even a couple of hours but I’m going to hold him to his end of our agreement….any advice for me when it does happen? Thank you for your support and an avenue to let off some steam. Shalom!
hi christine
I think one reason this is still going on is because you have not changed your approach from the other times we have communicated.
Why are you being so nice about this? this just empowers her, knowing that you will do nothing to oppose her.
I am going to send you some old emails where I wrote to you before.
Faith and prayer are essential, but without works you will get nowhere, or if you get somewhere, it will be decades later.
you have to take action.
Marianne,
ou said to take action here and I am emailing you for help. I am in a crisis and don’t know what action to take. I had emailed you before regarding my husband and his ex, going to court etc. Even though he’s taken some stance he is remaining largely passive about court and in general about his spiritual headship in the home. I have been reading about the Ahab spirit and am convinced, to some extent, he has it. Last week I felt a very strong impression that something bad was going to happen and I needed to ask others for prayer. I’ve kept the situation mostly to myself but beieved God was warning me. I did ask a few friends for prayer and they have been faithful but it doesnt seem to be helping and I don’t understand or know what to do. I have been feeling down and depressed all week. I’ve tried to talk with my husband and he just makes excuses for not being the spiritual head, being a good husband etc. I feel so left alone. I decided today I wasnt picking his kids up from school because she might be there and he had to stop putting me in the middle esp with our toddler son. He came home and went ballistic, threatening me, telling me he slept with another woman, he loves his ex girlfriend more than he’ll ever love me. I don’t understand and I’m devastated. I prayed so long for a godly husband, and truly believed and still do that he was the one. I want a house that loves God and serves God. I want him to have his rightful place in the house but he won’t and we are under such curses and attacks. I have no where to go. I have been praying and binding up spirits day and night and it just goes from bad to worse. Help.
nicole
Dump him, file for custody and divorce, stating grounds of adultery.
He refuses to change and he and his jez gf are tormenting you.
They have most likely been cheating behind your back the whole time.
Marianne,
In response to last communication….I guess I wasn’t very clear in earlier letters. Every ugly thing that this woman has sent my way has been in the form of e mails, aways in writing and NEVER in person. In person, especially in my own home, with my very, very strong husband she would be too cowardly to dare attack me, so that she could then be confronted. She hides her ugliness to make it impossible to stand up to her in front of my son, which I most certainly would have done. When I told my son that she wasn’t welcome in my house, that only made him stay away himself, thereby completely removing any ability to have any counteraction to her demonic influence. The ONLY reason that I would put forth any effort to “get along” with her is to draw him closer, to open an avenue for him to feel he CAN come home without her always being at his side. She will NEVER show out in front of me. If my behavior is at all times above reproach, including whatever I say, it will be far more difficult for her to distort. I have changed how I handle her because of the awareness of what drives her behavior/who I’m really dealing with. I will not ever be sucked into her plans. She is not my friend even if my son wants that so badly. He misses us but it’s his responsibility to set time aside to see us. If they should ever have a bad enough fight that he has to get out of the house, I want him to believe my home is a refuge to think and regroup. That won’t happen if he thinks he’s not welcome because of her. I actually would welcome the chance to have her show out at my home…she would be on my turf, with my husband to back me up. Believe me, she doesn’t want to display her ugliness when he can see it. Even my son is respectfully afraid of that. Marianne, their household is toxic and I feel sorry for the kids. I pray specifically the prayers you have provided but even more than that, I have AWARENESS which I didn’t have before things went so bad. I am determined to keep a door open for my son. I live my life under the protection provided me by faith and obedience to my covenant with YHWH Elohim. My desire is that my son see with his own eyes, clearly what he is married to. Please help me pray for not only his protection but the children in that house. It’s a dangerous place to live. Don’t confuse my “niceness” with weakness. I’m only doing what I need to, to bring change and have the opportunity to once again speak life into my son. Be blessed, Marianne. Thank you for caring.
hi christine
I understand. I am a mom too.
But something has to change.
Your son needs to stand up to her, and use his own male authority to put her in her place.
Right now she is the boss, not him.
To oppose a jezebel a group approach is best. that way she is outnumbered. the more men are involved, the better.
Respectfully Marianne I could not help ,but notice that you have no problem, genderizing the male ahab spirit.While repeadly reminding us, the jezebel spirit does not reflect any innate female weakness,that women have more than men.Why?
Your brother(unfortunately) in Christ
hi will
You are right, the ahab and jezebel spirits can also inhabit the opposite gender.
Most of the time, the jezebel infects the female, and the ahab the male.
In a male dominated society, the best way for a female to advance is through the support of men.
But I have seen it the other way around. Example an angry abusive father ( male jezebel) with a permissive wife, who looks the other way while he beats the children.
Male jezebels are the most dangerous because of their physical strength and political power. The antichrist will be one.
Male jezebels are “in your face” – direct confrontation. Women jezebels are more sneaky, which means they can do more damage before you know what is going on.
But this is not to transfer all focus on men. I try to show on different pages that there are different types of jezebels and that men or women could fill the role.
For simplicity’s sake, while in discussion, I might refer to jezebel as “she” and the ahab as “he.”
But this definition will change with the circumstances.
I hope that makes my post more clear.
Here, the discussion is “ahab,” so I automatically say he, but yes, it could be a “she.”
The jezebel is the more active spirit, and the ahab enables it with its position.