Jezebel – Poor little me

 

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This is a cross between the sneaky, charming Jezebel, and the Peter Pan jezebel.

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The Jezebel always misrepresents herself as something she is not.  Look around her, and find the Ahab that is supporting her.

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General characteristics:

The underlying need is for attention and control, driven by self pity, and a need to blame others for their mistakes, to maintain their reputation as a sweet and innocent person.

The main behavior is victimhood, and denial of responsibility for wrongdoing.

They are irresponsible. They do not accept responsibility for their own behavior. It is always someone else’s fault.

Behavior may be “normal” until they make a mistake of some sort.

Then the blame is passed to someone else, and the jezebel becomes the false victim of the true victim.

This way she gets the positive attention, the comfort, and rescue efforts of others, while the true victim gets branded as evil.

False victimhood should be distinguished from a true victim of any abuse, before deciding someone is a jezebel.

This personality creates the abuse.

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Notes about self pity as a general behavior, in otherwise normal people. It has some positive, self healing aspects:

http://www.join-the-fun.com/self-pity.html

Self pity exists as a real emotion. All real emotions have both a positive and a negative side. The (tiny!) positive side of pity lies with its powers of anesthesia.

Self pity numbs the pain. It puts you to sleep. It wraps you in a cocoon of mush – and keeps you ‘safe’ from intrusion.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-pity

Self-pity is the psychological state of mind of an individual in perceived adverse situations who has not accepted the situation and does not have the confidence nor ability to cope with it.

It is characterized by a person’s belief that he or she is the victim of events and is therefore deserving of condolence.

Self-pity is generally regarded as a negative emotion in that it does not generally help deal with adverse situations.

However, in a social context, it may result in either the offering of sympathy or advice.

Self-pity may be considered normal, and in certain circumstances healthy, so long as it is transitory and leads to either acceptance or a determination to change the situation.

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Self Pity in Jezebels:

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1. They are constantly offended at the behavior of others, and display passive aggressive attacks in sometimes subtle retaliations.

2. cannot forgive.

3. perceives injury where there isn’t any, then attacks

4. gets the true victim in trouble, and then takes credit for being the victim.

5. They are careful to misrepresent the actions of others as abusive, when there is no intent to be that way.

6. Irresponsible. Do not accept responsibility for their actions.

7. They are immature, have no true authority, but want others to see them as experts, or so gifted, that they are worthy special attention. They are unqualified to be in the position they want, so they fake it, and create a delusion.

8. “I didn’t create the problem so I can’t end it!”

9. Helplessness is a manipulative tactic.

10. They always need someone to rescue them.

11. Even if they do not generate the misunderstanding, they will foster it, or encourage a lie, if it benefits them.

12. Life is a melodrama.

13. They will not admit when they are wrong. Even if it is obvious.

14. Defensive pride.

15. Can disrupt families, workplaces, churches, etc. by fostering misunderstandings.

16. Women are the “damsels in distress,” and can get men fighting over them.

17. Men can be the “sweet, hurt guy,” and turn women into fighting dogs.

18. No remorse over the damage they have caused to others.

19. They are usually the most “holy, anointed” person in church, since they are so perfect.

20.  Their “sadness” at their mistreatment is used to solicit sympathy from others.  Notice how quickly they can become “sad” over something.  People will run to their rescue.

21. This can occur individually, or within a group, that has been brainwashed into believing that it is a victim, when it is actually the perpetrator of crimes.

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Either individually, or as a group, these people are dangerous. There can be legal losses, broken relationships, job loss, child care custody disputes, mental illness, medical damages, loss of life, etc.

In a large social context, imagine an entire country creating chaos, violence, and murders over blaming true victims for criminal behaviors of others.

True victims can die, or suffer permanent damage, while “poor, little me” goes free.

The Jezebel spirit in a culture draws its authority from other supporting (Ahab) cultures, which permit its behavior, because it benefits them.

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It is our responsibility to seek out the truth at any time, and not allow innocent victims to be blamed and persecuted as the guilty ones.

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See also:

Peter Pan Jezebel    Click here for more

Sneaky, Charming Jezebel    Click here for more

Identify and control Jezebel   Click here for more